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Why can't I reach orgasm?

By September 28, 2009 - 9:30am
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I am 22 years old with primary inorgasmia. I cannot afford to see a doctor because I am up to my neck in college loans and it's not the type of thing I can ask my parents for help with. I have read books, articles, forums, etc. and have tried different types of toys and lubricants. I have no history of abuse or trauma. I just don't understand. It's as though I climb to what seems like it should be the top but instead of an intense release, everything just sort of plateaus and fizzles out. I need help!

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You can try a procedure called o-shot which uses blood derived growth factors to give healthier vaginal tissue by stimulating uni-potent stem cells. This very effective with my patients. You can see how it's done at http://oshot.info

Hope this helps.

Charles Runels, MD

December 17, 2012 - 1:38am
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I've been at it by myself for a long time with no avail. I'm not embarrassed/ashamed which is what many books and other things I've read cite as a main cause. It's literally as though there is a road block and I can't get passed a certain point of arousal.

October 19, 2009 - 10:09am

Great advice from Rosa. Try to do it yourself first. It's pretty normal to not experience one with your partner, especially when you're anxious.

October 19, 2009 - 1:14am


Do you ever masturbate? Women who suffer from primary inorgasmia typically do not masturbate, so I was wondering if this was your case.

If you don't, try practicing by yourself, with toys, then with your partner. Keep in mind that too much use of toys can actually inhibit the possibility of orgasm without them.

September 30, 2009 - 6:30am
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