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Why can't my fiance enter my vagina?

By Anonymous September 25, 2011 - 2:12pm
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When I had sex for the first time, my boyfriend inserted the penis in too hard and gosh initially it didnt go in cause i was nervous and all but after the nest couple of pushes i could feel something rip off and a large amount of blood coming out even messing up the sheets and so muchso that it kept coming in the baathroom to for about 5-10 mins... The bleeding stopped after that but sex after that was very painful... like i could feel my vagina streched to the max. I would say the pain was 8-9 on a scale of 0-10. We tried again but the pain was too much. I want to know how can he penetrate me or is something wrong with me?

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Hi Anon,

Sorry to hear about your painful first experience. When did you try to have sex again? Immediately after your first time? or did you give yourself time to heal?

It sounds as though the pain you felt was mainly related to the fact that he may have torn something when he attempted to penetrate you. If this is the case, then you should wait before attempting to have sex again. You should also keep an eye on it in case an infection develops (you'll notice a very foul smell). When you do feel like you have healed (which should at least be 2-3 weeks after the incident) then it is very common to feel fear or even panic due to the anticipation of feeling pain again. You MUST tell your fiance to be gentle and take his time and it may even be wise to consider using a water-based lubricant for the first couple of times...until you are comfortable having sex without it.

If you try this and continue experiencing an intense amount of pain, please consult with your doctor.

Please keep us posted,


September 25, 2011 - 4:21pm
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Anonymous (reply to Rosa Cabrera RN)

Thanks your help really worked. Last time after the painful experience, we tried immediately the very next day and as you mentioned, we were more panic stricken than relaxed. We havent tried after wards but now know that whenever we do, its most important to relax and enjoy the moment rather than try to 'achieve' something.


September 28, 2011 - 8:24am
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