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Why doesn't my fiance want to have sex with me?

By Anonymous February 28, 2012 - 5:04pm
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I have been with my man for about 5 years. The sex was great at first. Of course after some time it slowed down a bit, but now he never seems to want it. I recently found out he was looking at porn on the internet. I discussed it with him and he's stopped for the most part. I thought this would result in him wanting sex more often, but it hasn't. I'm sick of always being the one to initiate it, and even when I do sometimes he rejects me. I've tried talking to him about it/asked if there's anything I can do? and he doesn't have an answer and says to quit bothering him about it and nothing is wrong. A while back I even went to the sex store and bought toys ect. I'm not overweight or unattractive. I've searched everything to find out if he's possibly cheating but found nothing. We got engaged a few months ago. Everything else is great in our relationship. He is great to me and is my best friend....I just don't know what to do? I've read about other reasons and no he doesn't have stress, no medications. I'm 31 and he's 35 if that's any help with your response. I'm baffled! Please help, I don't want to keep "bothering" him about this in fear of pushing him away but I'm concerned especially now that we are about to get married!

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This is a problem that you would want to resolve before you get married. It sounds like to have tried many things. I can suggest that you both seek the professional help of a couples counselor, who may offer help and solutions.


February 28, 2012 - 6:35pm
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