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Why doesn't my fiance want to have sex with me?

By Anonymous March 7, 2012 - 5:21pm
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My and my Fiance been together for quite a long time. He hasn't had a lot of girls in bed. He was single for two years and now me and him are together. At first we use to have sex once every other weekend and now we are living together and he barely wants to have sex with me. I have tried putting on sexy outfits on, shaving constantly, even up to massages. But nothing. I asked him why he doesn't want to have sex and he uses the whole religion on how he wants to wait to get marry so he can have sex with me often. I mean, Okay, its okay to me religious, but comon. Don't you at least have to have some kind of temptation?? I know he isn't cheating on me. Trust me, he isn't the type. BUt I just don't know what else to do. I am afraid to marry this guy and have him lack in bed. Not wanting to have sex with me. Isn't in the beginning is when guys want you the most? Every night I feel like a guy begging him to bang me. Even though he doesn't last long in bed and doesn't know how to control himself. BUt I just don't know. I need your advice. I am so confuse. I don't want to marry this guy and still have this problem. I just feel that at times he just wants me because he doesn't have anyone else.. Any advice?

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Thanks Maryann, I appreciate your response. Hopefully one way or another me and my fiance cna find a solution to this problem.

March 7, 2012 - 6:19pm

I can apprecriate your concerns and frustrations. Sexual intimacy is an important part of a healthy and satisfying relationship for two people.

It is vital that you and your fiance that you discuss this problem honestly and openly. If your fiance hesitant to have sexual intercourse with you until you are married, why was he okay having sex every other weekend before? You need answers.

If he is having erectile dysfunction, he should make an appointment with a urologist, who can help him. If religious beliefs are the real problem, the two of you may consider meeting with your religious leader.

A couples counselor or therapist may be another resource person.

Marriage is a lifetime commitment. You do not want to enter it lightly.


March 7, 2012 - 5:56pm

Also he claims that he been single for soo long and jerking off for such a long period of time, his sexual intentions aren't the same anymore.

March 7, 2012 - 5:51pm
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