Why is it that whenever I orgasm, I feel like urinating(and sometimes I do), but other times I feel like I have the urge as though I am about to come, but don't have any cum?

Hi Anonymous,

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It's possible for women to urinate and orgasm at the same time, and, as a result, some women do hold back on orgasms to prevent this from happening. However, it's also easy to confuse the sensation of impending orgasm with the urge to pee. What's more, many women experience "female ejaculation," which involves expelling a liquid that is not urine (read Orgasms, female ejaculation, and the G-spot, again for more info). Many women (and men) enjoy female ejaculation, even with the sometimes abundant fluid that accompanies orgasm.

During sex, you or your partner's fingers, hands, penis, or other object may be putting pressure on your bladder. If you look at female anatomy diagrams, it's easy to see how close the clitoris and vagina are to the bladder, and why the bladder might get prodded during sex. Women who have urinary stress incontinence sometimes "leak" urine when they laugh, sneeze, or orgasm. This is more common in women who have had children. Women can gain control over "leaking" by practicing Kegel exercises, which strengthen the pelvic muscles around the vagina and urethra. (To learn how, check out Kegel Technique.)

Women who do not experience urinary incontinence at other times, but feel the urge to pee when approaching orgasm, may be getting confusing messages from very sensitive parts of their bodies. The clitoris, often the focus of sexual pleasure for women, is located about a finger width above the opening of the urethra. It's hard to stimulate one without rubbing the other. You may feel most comfortable if you empty your bladder before sex (it's a good idea to pee before and after sex to help prevent urinary tract infections (UTIs) as well — see Urinating before and after sex: Can it prevent pregnancy and STDs?). That way you can feel free to let go and/or come!

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Hope this helps,

Rosa