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Why would my boyfriend prefer to masturbate daily than have sex with me?

By December 1, 2009 - 8:27pm
 
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My boyfriend and I have been living together for 12 months. He's previously told me that he has a low libido however I found that he is masturbating on a daily basis in secret. We only have sex about once ever 10 days but I'm always up for it, I love the intimacy we share. On ocassions I know that he uses porn stimulants to get there as well. He's hard to talk to so I don't know whether to talk to him about it or not, it hurts me so much because I don't feel like he's 'into' me. What can I do to make him want me more and masturbate less???, please help.

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I don't why a guy would wank over a woman he had never met its happening to me and I don't know how to tell him its making me feel he's not interested. I haven't met him yet

December 17, 2016 - 8:12am

Monkey,

Thank you for your post. I am sorry that you are experiencing this with your boyfriend but you are not alone. Have you tried wearing something sexy around the house? Or right before going to sleep? Many times men that lose the interest in having sex with their significant other it's because they are not being visually stimulated. The porn on the other hand, meets this stimulation and although he loves you, porn gets him off.

Here is the link to another post very similar to yours-- http://www.empowher.com/community/ask/boyfriend-masturbates-even-though-haveing-willing-girlfriend

Good Luck and keep us posted.

December 2, 2009 - 7:28am

Sorry to hear that, i really know the feeling,My husband and are married for 3 years now, everything was normal , and we used to have sex 3 times per day, now he doesnt even wants to touch me or have sex anymore for over one year now,He doesnt wants to talk about it and get mad if i start,he doesnt wants to find a solution and its killing me, i reall dont know what to do, he says he loves me , but have no feelings for sex, and he is only 29,Im so frustrated because he feel irritated when i start or want to discuss the matter, so I think we are on the same page her, wish i could help you, but , sorry , need help myself,Goodluck!

December 2, 2009 - 6:13am
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