Erectile dysfunction is a popular topic when it comes to the sexual health problems. There are a lot of articles devoted to the subject itself and plenty to adjoining ones. They are traditionally and unfairly male-directed. It is true that the condition is physically experienced only by men but it does not justify the unidirectionality. Women do have their share in suffering from male potency problems though not in the physical sense of course. Naturally being more emotionally perceptive they endure it very hard. ED is a tough test for any relationship that, unless both the partners are sensitive and willing to resolve it, is easy to be ruined.
Having to face Erectile dysfunction a man starts to feel insecure and utterly frustrated; a woman starts to blame herself. Always oversensitive she does no better than to find fault in herself as being not enough sexy and attractive, or good. Notwithstanding the fact that male's inability to initiate and/or maintain erection in no way depends of the women being or not being so, the fact stays the same. Actually the reasons of ED are mostly physical. They are mainly brought on with age illnesses; but the most probable are diabetes, high blood pressure and heart disease.
Women, being less logical and more self-respective, do not consider these factors in the first place and therefore try to "improve" the situation by the actions that from their point of view will increase a man's sexual drive. There is no need to say that all the sexiest dresses and aromatherapies in the bedroom will be probably of little help; as a man does not experience problems with desire, he just has problems with erection. Now just imagine how he feels. In most cases such behavior from woman's side will evoke quite opposite reaction to the expected and he will try to withdraw.
In return, a woman will either continue to press it harder or just quit the relationship. There is no more serious thing that can deprive a woman of her self-esteem as her belief that she is unwanted. Because there must be definitely something wrong with her to the extent that her partner is unable to perform. This is how it is taken by a woman.
There are other reactions. No better in either way. Other women start to be overly caring. Questions and treatment suggestions that they pelt their partners with become really annoying and even more frustrating.
In any couple the reaction is individual but the relations inevitably change to tension. To avoid unnecessary mutual frustration some essential things should be done. The best thing for a woman in this condition is to be absolutely sure that she is not the reason of her partner's inability. She is still attractive, loved and wanted. She should remember that the cause is more likely of a physical character, though psychological reasons should not be passed over as possible. Anyway, whatever the reason it must be known for sure; and the first task for a woman is to persuade her partner to consult a doctor.
Meanwhile it is important to find an acceptable way to be intimate even without sex. Try something different. Talk to each other. It is embarrassing and not pleasant but it is the best way to make things right. Just do not encourage the discussion in the bedroom or after you tried unsuccessfully again. Women should stop blaming themselves and accept that ED as a widespread condition. Mutual understanding and support is very important.
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