Me and my husband have been together nearly 3 years now, we also have a young 19month old son.
I've had many trust issues, including being cheated on, being beaten etc.
It took me a long time to become comfortable with my husband and this morning I woke him by kissing his chest.. Things got steamy.. It was the most passionate we had ever been. I wanted to make love finally for the first time. He pulled himself on top of me kissing me deeply, tears dance joyfully down my cheeks. He looked at me with a stare of fear he pulled away from me.
Telling me its not normal to cry during sex, ... Following up saying I am a turn of.
He didn't even realise how important giving myself to him was to me. I have no confidence left and I'm frightened ro undress in front of him.
I'm heartbroken...
Don't know what to do, I'm lost.
I'm convinced he must be cheating on me but I want to believe that he isn't.
What should I do? Should I divorce him ?
All user-generated information on this site is the opinion of its author only and is not a substitute for medical advice or treatment for any medical conditions. Members and guests are responsible for their own posts and the potential consequences of those posts detailed in our Terms of Service.
Add a Comment1 Comments
Hello and welcome to EmpowHer,
July 3, 2016 - 5:01pmI'm so sorry to hear that your husband responded in such an unsympathetic way. If you have not already shared your past hurts with him, I highly suggest that you do! He cannot understand your tears unless you explain the cause. Of course, not any girl would cry while making love. But after hearing of your background and your feelings it makes perfect sense!
I know you are afraid to trust him after he rejected you in such an awful way. But if you want to give him another chance I suggest that you explain to him how you were feeling and how amazing you felt with him. Tell him how you were overwhelmed by how wonderful it felt to be intimate with him.
No man in his right mind would shun you for saying that.
Its your choice. If you are not ready to trust him, you can leave. But I believe it was a genuine misunderstanding on his part and that he did not mean to hurt you further.
Faith
This Comment