share: I need a true friend. Some one who gets me and understands.
Hello I'm Melissa, I'm 41 yrs old I have two children and a grand daugther. I have fibromyalgia,thyroid and so much more.
There are times I walk without aid and times I need my walker or cane. But I don't like the way people look at me. And they do say that I'm faking it. I know I shouldn't care what people think or say. They don't live with me and see what happens to me. At night with all the pain and scared looks on my children's faces. I'm also getting therapy for my children; I feel they can benefit from talking to some one too. I know it's for the best that they get this therapy. They need to let it out. And not feel that there going to hurt my feelings buy say what they feel.
I have two children my first is 22 yrs old and she has a 7 mouth old baby girl (my grand baby). And my baby boy is 6 yrs old and going to start school in the fall. I know there scared. Seeing your mom weak and not get out of bed or to walk to the bathroom with out help. I didn't ask for this, I went from super mom to this weak helpless person. There are days I can do things. But then I over do it by a lot. Like clean the house no stopping me. They tell me mom stop your going to hurt your self! Ands they are right I do. I'll be in bed for a week in pain. I don't listen I need to do it all went I can. The doctors tell me I need a health aid. But I always say not yet.
I have so much stress with me being sick, my relationship and my children. They have there own thing going on, my daughter is not having it easy with the baby's dad. I try not to get in, I don't want to. It's her problem not mine, I have my own thing going on.
My relationship is not working out with my son's father. I feel that he doesn’t know how to handle me being sick or he don't want to? The man I have been with for 8 1/2 yrs. doesn't know what if he wants to be with me. I'm trying to be good about this. I told him we need a brake. Also told he lets just do this before one of us doses something one of us is not going to like. I feel it's going to be me. I love him yes but not should what I want for a year an 1/1 now. And he doesn't know what he what’s or needs. I also feel he doesn't know how to be with me? Being as sick as I am. I could walk some days and some days I can't. ((((I DON'T WANT TO BE ALONE!!)))) HIS LOST!!!!
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meme - email me at annehillebrand@bellsouth.net and I'll send you a list of free tips and tricks for dealing with FMS that should be a big help.
Annie
July 13, 2008 - 1:53amThis Comment
hi Annie,
At EmpowHer, all of the information posted on this site is "free", and of benefit for all of the readers!
We would LOVE to hear your "tips and tricks" for dealing with FMS, instead of advertising and asking individuals to email you separately.
What is your best advice for dealing with FMS, as meme is not alone and your information can help many, many women.
thanks!
July 13, 2008 - 6:49amMeme,
Thanks for sharing your struggles, I know it is difficult to go through not only the physical pain, but the emotional pain with a partner can be even tougher. What kind of therapy are you going to? And, what a great idea to offer therapy to your children as well! What are their thoughts about it?
Have you talked with your son's father about your feelings and concerns? What has he said? Has he accompanied you to the doctor's office or otherwise made attempts to learn about fibro and thyroid conditions?
If you feel that you are in an overall healthy relationship, there is a lot of stress put on the partner who is not experiencing the health conditions; they may be in more of a caretaker role. Your therapist can also help you through this, but please feel free to use EmpowHer site as a journal...that can communicate with you!
I hope you continue to write about your journey, both the ups and downs. So many of us have "been there", in either the physical ailments or the relationship troubles. Here are some posts you may find helpful, with people you can connect with:
Fibromyalgia:
http://empowher.com/ask/fibromyalgia/has-anyone-out-there-been-suffering...
http://empowher.com/community/forum/alternative/what-alternative-treatme...
http://empowher.com/share/fibromyalgia-misdiagnosis
Relationships:
July 13, 2008 - 7:12amhttp://empowher.com/community/blog/kwolek21/validating-my-feelings
Hello Everyone
I have not been on in a long time. Sorry life has sended me upside down. My kids are great and my grandbaby isgetting so big alexia is now 2 1/2.
My odds girl moved out with the baby last year. It was so hard i hurt inside and out. Cryed for days on end, you all know how hard that is on being sick. but i'm doing much better. I don't cry anymore thats good. But it still hards from time to time. My son is 8 now and doing good. He is in FL. with his father for the summer. I talk to him two times a day, I miss him so much can't wate to he gets back. Noah will be back Aug. 10th.
I meet a man that is great with what i have to live with and more. We been together now 1 1/2 years. He has asked me to marry him i said yes!
Ray does everything for me cleaning, cooking, help with Noah. And i thank him all the time.
I got a puppy Maltese he is now 8mos. his name is Reese Winter. He is to much I love him. Reese plays with the family and to sweet he has his days. But i am so happy i got him. He does not like to go out, but i still take him out time to time. Reese gets me to move around we all know we need that. I feel like i'm going back word. Started feeling like the pain and asthma is getting bad again it's summer and i don't feel like this untill in the winter. Sleeping is getting bad no sleep. Maybe two to four hours. Its getting to me no sleep more pian. Getting tired have to stop tpying now i will get back to you all soon i hope.
love you all
Melissa
July 26, 2010 - 10:32am