I've been seeing my boyfriend for almost a year now. We're both 20. Initially we were very close, telling each other everything. Our honeymoon stage lasted for about 5 months. My boyfriend is a christian but wasn't against sex before marriage so we began to sleep together after 2 months. Then around the 6th month mark people started telling him he was moving too fast and was spending too much time with me. That we needed to have our own friends and be 2 independent people. Which is a bit difficult since we go to the same university and study the same course and live 2 minutes away from each other. We have the same friends. So about the 6th month mark he started to pull back in the relationship which hurt me. I was crying all the time because it felt as though he was breaking up with me even though we were still together. Eventually things got better and were back to how they initially were. Then later after about 9 - 10 months he decided he wasn't ready to sleep with me anymore. He didn't know if it was right in the eyes of god and what others would think knowing he is a christian. Plus he is terrified of getting me pregnant even though we always used protection. So now at 11 months we're not sleeping together and he has pulled back on seeing me, calling me and talking to me. He says he still loves me. I've tried to be ok with this, with not as much contact and no physical intimacy but its excruciatingly painful. I'm compromising everything. I love him so much and honestly wanted to spend my life with him but now it hurts. I don't know what to do. I can't live without him but i'm in pain with him.
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