I'm married in my 30's with two boys under 4. I'm also a stay at home mother. My husband works 40+ hrs a week at a good job so thankfully we aren't struggling to make ends meet. He does work very hard to provide for us so I feel horrible complaining but I have no one to talk to about this. I do t feel like he respects me as his partner or the mother of his children. While yes, he does work very hard at his job, he doesn't help me at all with the house or boys. I barely sleep, our youngest is teething, and I'm still up at 7 with our 3 yo. My day doesn't stop from here. When I finally get the kids down for naps, I clean. After they wake up and are given snacks, I finish chores and then start dinner. My husband comes home and goes into the garage or collapses on the couch to watch tv. God forbid I ask him to help with the boys so I can finish dinner, he gives me attitude. But if I don't ask and then am struggling to juggle our baby and get dinner on the table he gets mad at me for not asking him to help. I never leave the house because he always comes up with an excuse to NOT watch the boys for me so I never get a break. I'm lucky if I shower every other day because, again, he won't soothe the baby long enough for me to shower. By the time the baby does finally pass out, around 4 am, I'm so exhausted I pass out. I love my husband so much and have asked him too many times to count to help me with the boys so I can have a break. I'm stressed out, exhausted, and getting really resentful towards my husband. Weekends I just want to slap him. I'm running around trying to do things I can only do when he's home and he goes to nap, a luxury I don't get, so I'm not able to do things and then he has the nerve to get mad at me because I couldn't mop the floors or re organize the boys room because my 3 yo tornado wouldn't sit still and my baby was screaming because his gums hurt. I'm getting to the point where I'm over this relationship because I'm trying to make things work and he's just being selfish and pushing everything on me. I don't know what to do but I'm reaching my breaking point. Not having any friends or family near doesn't help at all. I'm just feeling very isolated and angry.
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