I do understand this site is for women, but I still wanted to share my story. I am 32 years old and was with my wife for 7 years and married for 4 years. Three years ago, I had a stroke and caused me to have no feeling and strength in my right arm. I now have a heart monitor in my chest and stage 4 chronic kidney disease. My wife and I did argue quite a bit but only because of her constant lying, and her treatment of her kids and her own family. In March of 2015 I found out that she had been calling, texting, and sending picture messages to someone late at night. When I confronted her about it, she lied and told me that is was a female friend of hers. None the less, it was all a lie. I later found out that she had been cheating on me with some one that she works with, which she denied. As more facts come out about her lies, I had enough and put her out of the house. Instead of going to her mother's like I was led to believe, she started living in a hotel with the "friend" from work. After a week of me trying to get her to spend time with our kids who are 5 and 6. She finally started coming around. The first time she took the kids, the kids came home and told me that "mommy" was with her friend Johnathan. At first I had no problem with it because I know who Johnathan is and I also know that he has a pregnant girlfriend who he also has kids with. More and more times she spent time with the kids, the same guy was around. Finally the truth came out when I decided to let her take the kids for a weekend. A friend of mine, saw her out with my kids and another man and called to tell me. When I confronted her about it, instead of explaining her self like the adult she claims to be, she cut the weekend short with her own kids and dropped them off at her mothers. When my mother brought them home, my 5 year old son told me he wanted to live with me but my 6 year old daughter wanted to stay with me. I didn't not want my son to resent me so I let him go. I did not realize that I would never see my son again. Now that the truth has come out about her cheating on me, her, the new boyfriend, and my son are now living in a apartment about an hour or so away. It has now been 7 months and I have not seen my son because she has convinced him that I will steal him if he comes to see me when In fact if that was the case, I would have never let him go in the first place. My daughter on the other hand wants nothing to do with her mother because of when she did. I've tried everyday to at least talk to her on the phone and she simply does not want to.
Because of my health, I have been waiting for disability for 3 years, and while I have had my court hearing for it, I'm still awaiting for the judge to make his decision. The problem now is it is too late. I fell 3 months behind in rend and am now homeless, living with friends. All of my stuff are in storage but I also had to leave a lot behind. My mother in law has agreed to take my daughter in until I get back on my feet because it will not be much long until I start receiving disability. I just worry that one day, my wife will try to take my daughter and there is nothing I can do about it. The friend I am living with said that my daughter is welcome to come, but I wasn't sure if it was the best thing for her. She has been there only for a few days now.
At this point, I still have not met the man who is living with my son and to be honest, I don't want to meet him. He may be a good guy to my son but at the end of the day he is still the man that stole my wife and son. I don't have it in me to live it in the past. Hopefully I will get my disability soon so that me and my daughter can be together again. I still have hopes that I will see my son again, but as time goes buy, the more he doesn't want to see me and there is nothing I can do about it, because I don't have the money to file for a divorce and the only way she will get a dissolution is if she gets my daughter too.
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