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Before a Hysterectomy.. my current situation

By June 5, 2011 - 10:56pm

Im 25 years old and got told in April that I have to have a hysterectomy. He said it will happen in 3 to 4 months. Im terrified. I have had issues with surgery in the past. My tubal ligation went horrible. I had several blood clots, had to be restitched as the cloths burst through the stitches, had to be on bed rest for 2 weeks and for a normal woman she would be back to her regular activities within 2 days of that particular surgery. Now this is also going to laperscopic I know i spelt that wrong sorry. Using the same entry points and I was told 2 to 3 weeks off work and 1-3 months before healed. I have a 6 yr old daughter and 4.5 yr old son to care for. It stresses me out. With the problems that I have now, and other off the topics I have with my partner I am affraid in a way that he may see me as less of a woman after. He says not but as it is he already has some "sexual" issues. My emotions are high, stress is high, anxiety is high. I feel very alone. My periods are not normal, my hormones have gone all wacky since my son was born and now I am already experiencing hot and cold flashes, mood swings, very even for me off periods. My doctor says it's kind of like menopause but not yet. Has anyone else experienced this or is going through it currently?

By July 5, 2011 - 2:43pm

I wonder if anyone has done a study on the number of women who have had tubal ligations and then had to have a hysterectomy? I had a tubal ligation after the birth of my second child at age 29. At age 35 I had to have a total hysterectomy after a year of pain and various doctors and tests. In the month prior to my surgery, I must have met at least a dozen different women who had all had hysterectomies, and also had all had their tubes tied somewhere between 3 & 8 years before the hysterectomy.

Fortunately for me, I was put right on Premarin and never had any problems after that, thankfully! I also know that I had no problem with not having my periods (hated them anyway), as I had NO intention of having any more children - hence the tubal ligation to start with, and not once did I ever feel like "less than a woman" because of it. Neither did any of the other women I'd met. They all seemed to feel as I did. In fact, I think my mother-in-law at the time was the only woman I knew who felt badly about her hysterectomy (when in her late 40's after 7 children).

We are most definitely not alone in this, nor do we each experience it the same way. I think all we can do is educate ourselves and find a doctor that works with us. I also choose to make the best out of every situation. I look at what I gained by my hystectomy (freedom from monthly periods) instead of what I might have lost (the ability to bear children - but I'd already done that anyway).

July 5, 2011 - 2:43pm
By June 28, 2011 - 5:06pm

I know it's hard but try not to worry so much. It really does only make things worse including making your period irregular. I had an abdominal hysterectomy last year using the same entry point as the abdominal myomectomy surgery a few months before that. I had irregular periods, hormone issues, mood swings and hot flashes as well. The best thing you can do is make sure you are comfortable with your doctor and your decision and focus on how things will be when you are better. You have to take care of yourself before you can take care of other people. There is a site called www.hystersisters.com that I found to be very helpful and helps you see you are not alone. Good luck!

June 28, 2011 - 5:06pm

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This group is for women who are going to have a hysterectomy or have had one. Why are you or have you gone through this? What is your story? Talk about concerns, ask questions, share stories, feelings, thoughts, and more. How it affects a woman mentally and physically before and after. For the woman who have gone through this please feel free to add in what to expect after. If you know what is normal and not please list it in your posts. Please note that the health topics listed are some suggestions of why or what caused your story. You don't have to have those issues. But it will give you an idea as to what this group is about.


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