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By HERWriter Guide September 9, 2010 - 7:09am

Hi Members and Readers!

EmpowHER is all about your needs, your wants and your opinions.

What would you like to see from this Group? More news topics? More articles? More chat from others with this condition?

As we start to grow our Groups - your input is much appreciated and valued. Tell us what you'd like from your Trying to Conceive Group. You're in great hands with Alison and her team, so post your ideas and suggestions below - we look forward to this Group growing stronger!

The EmpowHER Groups team

By HERWriter Guide June 1, 2011 - 8:26am

Hi mrscorino

I'm aghast for you, I'm so sorry this has happened. I can only hope that there is no permanent damage done and that your fertility is not in jeopardy. We're here for you all the way and please feel free to come here to ask questions, talk, vent or just get a little support.


June 1, 2011 - 8:26am
By May 26, 2011 - 4:55pm

I went to see my fertility specialist yesterday morning. The Depo thinned out the lining of my uterus so much that there is actually a 4cm rip in my uterus. Thus the bleeding every two weeks for 10+ days. It's not a period, it's actual bleeding because I'm injured. I am scheduled for a Hysterosalpingogram next month to find out exactly how much damage has been done. I can't believe that it's been this way for 10 months and no one thought to look.

May 26, 2011 - 4:55pm
By HERWriter Guide May 26, 2011 - 7:15am

Hi mrscorino,

I can really feel the disappointment in your words - and your frustrations.

Honestly - this isn't your parents fault - infertility isn't a worry for teens (we should hope!) so it's not something that parents really talk about and no-one will ever know if they are infertile until they try to get pregnant. Once a child is 18, parents have no say in what birth control she chooses.

I agree that doctors are not always good at explaining the side effects of birth control. Gaining 43 pounds is quite shocking - did they not express a lot of concern over that?

Like you, I have read many stories from women who have deeply regretted being on the Depo shot. Your doctor should have taken more time with you. If you knew then what you know now, you would never have chosen that kind of birth control, therefore it's wrong that you were not given this information.

Please feel free to vent your frustrations with us and also look to the future, which is what you are doing. We're here for all the emotional support you need and to point you in the right direction when you need it.

Our best to you,

May 26, 2011 - 7:15am
By May 18, 2011 - 12:48pm

I've seen my doctor a few times about the irregularity of my cycle (not to mention the frequency). I'm not anemic. I take iron suppliments just in case daily. Hopefully things pan out the way we all want them to. My biggest frustration is that my whole life my parents said "it only takes one time and you'll get pregnant" (trying to steer me away from sex). They DIDN'T tell me that there can be all these problems down the line that affect your chances and that once you WANT a baby, things might not be that simple. I think more parents should make that clear and be more informed on what birth control choices their daughters make. The Depo shot is wonderful if you don't like getting your period, but it also complicates getting pregnant when you really want to. No one ever told me this when it was recommended to me by my doctor. The side effects were not clear either "may have slight weight gain" did not accomodate for the 43 pounds I gained in 2 years. Nor did she explain that my migrane syndrome may be triggered by the shot, or that it would thin out my uterine lining so much that it would shed every 2 weeks and leave me with fertility problems. I think some doctors should educate themselves on the methods they're preaching to young women before they prescribe them.
If it weren't for my doctor, I may have been a mother already.

May 18, 2011 - 12:48pm
By HERWriter Guide May 17, 2011 - 6:55am


I know it easy to say (and it's totally normal to be nervous!) but it's also exciting as there's a "professional" attempt at baby-making going on and things are finally in the works!

Your monthly cycle does indeed make things difficult for you, not to mention exhausting and possibly anemic. Make sure your iron levels are good.

I can't wait to hear how things go and hoping for great news from you down the line!

May 17, 2011 - 6:55am
By May 12, 2011 - 8:02am

I will be starting my treatments in 13 days. So, a little less than 2 weeks. Still nervous. I have been doing a lot of research and trying to educate myself on some of the different medications they might put me on. I have over-active ovaries so they'll probably put me on something to slow them down. (I get my period twice a month with bleeding usually lasting 10 out of the 14 days in my cycle) Because my uterus sheds so often, if an egg was fertilized, it would have been washed out already before it even had the chance to burrow. Only having 8-10 days without bleeding is beginning to hinder the process.

May 12, 2011 - 8:02am
By HERWriter Guide May 10, 2011 - 2:37pm

Hi again mrscorino1990

Thanks for writing back. Once your OB/GY refers you to an infertility specialist, you'll be in very good hands. Odds are, they have seen whatever issue you have before (and many times). They also have access to the best scientific knowledge and treatments available.

It's very normal to feel like you're all alone and that everyone seems to have a baby but you. But once you begin the process, I promise you'll become something of an expert yourself and you'll no longer feel that you're lost.

By looks of your first post, you are probably starting your treatments very soon - perhaps now or in the next week? How is it going?

May 10, 2011 - 2:37pm
By May 6, 2011 - 4:50pm

I'm just nervous that, like my OB/GYN, they wont be able to figure out why I'm having problems getting pregnant. And the side effects of some of the drugs they can put you on to stimulate ovarian activity.

May 6, 2011 - 4:50pm
By April 18, 2011 - 7:41am

Hi Mrscorino1990,
We're glad you're here! Do you know the course for treatment your doctor is suggesting for you? That may help you to connect with more women who are undergoing, or have already undergone any treatment similar to yours.
What are you nervous/apprehensive about? The process, or if it will work? Please explain only as much as you are comfortable sharing.
I have many friends who had fertility treatments. They all had different experiences, but they all ended up with healthy babies, so it all worked out.

April 18, 2011 - 7:41am
By April 15, 2011 - 2:32pm

I would like to come into contact with more women taking fertility treatments. I'd like to learn more about their experiences and side effects. I'm going to start the fertility treatment next month and am very apprehensive and nervous.

April 15, 2011 - 2:32pm

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