Setting Realistic Expectations
I have a family member (don’t ask don’t tell…) who puts tremendous stress into her life and, frankly, I think she’s a bit off her rocker.
She does it by expecting people to behave a certain way; if they don’t behave as she thinks they should, she gets upset. Really upset. She expects people to always do the right thing and to be as polite as she is (she is VERY polite and knows her manners).
One thing she is a stickler about is being thanked. If she sends someone a birthday card and they don’t thank her for it, she is incensed. And if they DO thank her but it isn’t with enough sincerity or enthusiasm, she is equally incensed. She expects to be thanked, and in the way she would (and does) thank others.
Another thing that upsets her is people who forget her birthday, ESPECIALLY those to whom SHE sends a birthday card. She expects to be remembered by those that she remembers. She gets hurt and angry.
She also expects things that she does to be noticed and appreciated. If she puts a new plant in the house and her husband doesn’t notice, look out; it’s World War III!
I don’t want to turn this into a Mars-Venus thing.
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