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Managing Your Sex Life And Relationships

By January 20, 2012 - 4:04pm

When you are suffering from vulvar symptoms, it can impact your relationship and affect the sexual intimacy between you and your partner. Sexual pain should not be ignored. Vulvar health and care are important for your overall health and sexual wellness. Your time may have been occupied with seeking out health care professionals who are aware and able to diagnose your medical condition. Your work environment may have been impacted since you have required much time off of work for medical appointments and follow ups. Some women may even find that their finances have been directly impacted by many medical bills.

Relationship concerns and sexual life can also be impacted by one’s vulvar conditions. Your spouse may feel frustrated by your medical condition as it has impacted your sex life. Sexual pain and discomfort can also take their toll on your love life. Fatigue, stress and time management are issues that must be addressed in order to achieve a satisfying sexual relationship as well. You may feel distant or depressed about how your relationship has been affected, but there are some helpful suggestions to help maintain sexual vitality during the course of treatment and recovery.

Get Diagnosed
Often, women feel isolated when it comes to painful sex. They may have sought care from multiple health care professionals who were ill-trained or ill-equipped to address their sexual health concerns. Sometimes health care professionals may be dismissive about sexuality because they are uncomfortable addressing these personal concerns. Financial concerns may affect the couple as health care bills often pile up. In addition, work obligations may be a problem as women need time off of work for medical appointments. Partners are often frustrated with the time-consuming nature of the disorder, not fully understanding the issues surrounding the condition.

Obtaining a correct diagnosis from a specialist is often the first and most-important step for overall care. Once you have a diagnosis, you can work together with your partner and health care professional to develop a comprehensive treatment plan. Putting this treatment plan into action can bring relief to couples. It is important to do your homework and seek out well-trained health care professionals who have experience dealing with your condition. Do not be afraid to ask detailed questions, and remember that a second opinion may be helpful.

Get Fit
There is emerging data supporting the notion that physical activity among men and women can improve fatigue and stress issues which may lead to stronger sexual intimacy. Seek physical exercise that both you and your partner enjoy and can do together. Try a new sport. What about salsa or ballroom dancing? Go back to the gym and work out together. Try tennis or even go on a nature hike together. It will improve cardiovascular health, address weight issues and help you reconnect with your partner.

Get Enough Sleep
We tend to be a fatigued society with most of us not sleeping enough hours in the night. Sleep is critical to help recharge your battery, and those who fail to sleep will often feel excessive fatigue throughout the day. If you’re exhausted, sex is often the last thing on your mind. Make certain you are sleeping well, avoid excessive alcohol use, and maintain excellent hydration by drinking a lot of water.

Handling Stress
We all face stress on a daily basis: the yelling boss, the washing machine overflowing, the teens misbehaving in school, and financial pressures can all impact our mood. Learning effective stress management techniques can be helpful to keep your mood uplifted when faced with life’s challenges. Some techniques include mindfulness training, exercise, meditation and visualization.

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