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Toxic relationships are bad for your health, emotionally and physically.
Emotional vampires, financial terrorists, "Debbie Downers," gold-diggers, social climbers and "users" are all toxic personality types. Most of these toxic individuals are deliberate in their actions, but others are clueless in how their actions cause you harm.
The worst of these toxic individuals do not have your best interests at heart. Their intent is to destroy or undermine your confidence so they can gain some form of power, money or social status. These toxic people are bottom-feeders who know how to manipulate and do not think twice about lying. Many times, lying is second nature to these individuals. Many of them are borderline sociopaths.
There is an underlying psychological issue beneath the toxic individual’s negative and harmful behavior. Their issues need to be addressed by a professional like a therapist or psychologist. The last thing you want to do is act as their personal therapist.
The most important thing to realize is that you cannot change the toxic person’s behavior. However, you can change your behavior and how you react to the toxic individual.
If you are in a toxic relationship, here are some tips to eradicate yourself from the destructive relationship:
• The first thing you need to do is identify if you are in a relationship with a toxic tart or toxic thug. If you are unsure about the relationship, you can take Dr. Lillian Glass’ Toxic People Quiz at http://www.drlillianglass.com/quizzes/toxic-people-quiz/.
• Next, accept responsibility for the relationship.
• All healthy relationships have boundaries. First, think about the types of boundaries you desire in your relationships. Second, set these boundaries and don’t be afraid to say no. Also, call out the toxic individual’s bad behavior. Tell the toxic individual his or her words or actions are mean or disrespectful.
• Decide if the relationship is worth saving. One key thing to remember is that almost all toxic relationships explode when they end.