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Keeping the Sex Alive in Long-Term Relationships

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Boring. That’s a typical response when you ask many long-term couples about their sex lives. With all the demands of everyday life, work and family, it’s no wonder couples are bored with sex. Most sex experts say this doesn’t have to be the norm. Here are some of their suggestions to reignite the flame.

Simone Bienne, a British sex and relationship expert, said to kiss as passionately as you did at the beginning of your relationship, and it will work wonders for your love life.

Dawn Michael, a sex counselor, wrote in the Los Angeles Examiner, “Make it a point to change up the sex, touch your partner in a different way, tease them throughout the day; buy sex toys, role play. Do whatever it takes to make the sex fun; fun sex is much more exciting than just having sex to get it over with, or just to ‘do it.’”

Another thing to do is schedule sex.

Anthony Smith, deputy director of the Australian Research Center in Sex, Health and Society at La Trobe University in Melbourne, told the New York Times, “Couples need to ask each other, ‘How much time do we want to spend having sex or being intimate, and what needs to go out of our schedule to make that time available?’ If people value sex as an important part of their relationship, and almost everybody does, then they need to put sex higher up the priority list.’’

Bienne said to appreciate your mate. I’ve seen sex lives change from stale to great in just two weeks by each partner saying something they appreciate about each other every day. Showing appreciation regularly like this not only makes you feel better about yourself, it gives a massive romantic boost to your relationship.

Robert Billingham, an associate professor in Indiana University Bloomington's Department of Applied Health Science, agrees. On About.com, he said, "The mistake most couples or one person makes is they're so much in love with their partner that they assume the relationship will last forever. They don't think it is something they have to work on."

In the Los Angeles Examiner, Michael said to go on sexy dates.

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Sounds good, thanks for that ideas! Online Dating

June 28, 2011 - 11:20am
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