I am 25, I am engaged to a wonderful man, and I have a no interest in sex anymore. My fiancé and I have been together almost 3 years, and when we first started dating, we couldn't keep our hands off each other. Then about a year and a half ago, I went off my nuvaring because I couldn't afford it without insurance. My sex drive just tanked after that - I have no problem getting horny and taking care of myself when I'm alone, but when it comes to having sex, I couldn't care less. My body still has physical reactions, and I still orgasm, but I'm just not feeling it anymore. It's not fun, I don't look forward to it, and even though I prefer to wear as little clothes as possible at home, I stay dressed and prefer not to change in front of him whenever he's home because I worry about him initiating sex. I'm not naked cause I want to have sex, I'm just comfortable that way, but he can't handle that without starting something. He never forces it on me, if I'm say something or appear really blah about it, he'll ask me if I want to keep going or he'll just stop completely, but I feel bad turning him down because he has a high sex drive and I never want to have sex anymore. I just don't get aroused when he tries to turn me on. Its not that he's doing it wrong cause I've showed him exactly what I like, I think I'm bored with our sex life cause I just can't get my head in the game anymore?
I don't know what to do anymore. I used to enjoy having sex and I would look forward to it all the time but it's become a burden of sorts and I don't know why. Help! I feel like our relationship is physically stagnant and I've never been with someone this long before and I don't know how to get that spark or my sex drive back. In the past, I would just switch partners to fix things and the fresh chase would put me back on track until I got bored again but that's not an option anymore - we're getting married in four months and I love him.
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