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By Anonymous June 26, 2017 - 3:24am
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On the 1st June- sexually assaulted .. No inter course but there is a possibility of sperm or Precm being on his fingers (don't know)! I understand that Sperm could have traces of sperm if he ejaculated earlier OR if he did not go to the toilet but I'm not sure of any. Started my 'period' the day after. I put quotation marks in period because now I'm
Not sure if it was my period because it was lighter than usual And I heard trauma can make a woman bleed.
It lasted 6 days but was light but because it came round about when my period was due I took this as my period.

Anyway on the 8th June I met up with a friend who I spoke to about everything and thought he could help . I did have feelings for him and him for me BUT not anymore. He got abit too close and he told me not to worry. We were on the process on getting to know each other and I told him I ain't comfortable with any type of sexual activity but he ended up dry humping me anyway. I kinda just froze and he did whatever (all above clothes). After that, we got into a massive argument. I don't know if this was an assault because I wasn't hit physically but I did verbally say that I am not comfortable??i don't talk to him due to this? From your site I gathered that sperm and Precm cannot travel through clothing so I don't understand why everything is happening. I've been feeling spells of nausea (that's honestly the only symptom
I can gather) but today, when I went to the washroom I saw like red marks on the tissue (which I'm assuming is the lipgloss that was possibly on my hands). It's been over 21 days for the first encounter and about 18 days since the second. I took a HPT today morning before I saw the marks and it was negative (first response)- my period is due any time in between the 29th onwards. I read something about implantation bleeding which can occur early in pregnancy! Which can happen before your period. I understand it's just a few drops but from what I've told you should I be even worrying about pregnancy or is it just all in my head.
I'm actually underweight and have been fasting this month and don't really have an appetite either. I'm scared that this can mess with my cycle.
Not sexually active but this month just had some random encounters and has just been hell.
Also, can you please advise me on whether what I have told you Is in fact a sexual assault?

I hope you don't mind but I'd like to stay anonymous

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Thanks Maryann For your help
I dont know if you got my last comment so i'm just posting again. I hope you don't mind.
I'm assuming that the bleed on the 2nd was my menstrual period because it followed my normal course (started off brown then turned into a heavier flow..not that heavy but heavy enough to be a period and ended with brown blood). + i read that if a woman does bleed if her hymen is torn then its just a few drops that lasts for a day or two.
The bleed seemed to be have coming from higher up so am i correct to assume it was my monthly cycle?

Also, slightly worried about the second incident which only involved sexual contact through clothing (However, he did not touch my privates + only mimicked sex all above clothing) ...sperm cannot swim through clothing right?
Not gonna lie but i do not keep track of my ovulation only because i know that it varies between day 28-38 and i am not sexually active and neither am i trying to conceive.
I do have nausea but i don't know if stress can do that??????

Took a HPT today morning with FMU with a First Response early detection test...came out negative (can i trust it IF:
It's been 26 days since the first incident AND 19 days since the second?). I won't be asking the same thing again because i understand that you are probably busy with other requests. I just need these few answers to calm down my nerves.

Thank-you ever so much!
I love this site..It's helped me alot this month!

June 27, 2017 - 8:03am
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Hello Anonymous,

Rupturing of the hymen can cause spotting. Heavier bleeding is possible with trauma.

You were not at risk for becoming pregnant if you and he were wearing bottoms. Sperm and semen cannot pass through clothing.

Yes, you can trust the result of the pregnancy test.


June 27, 2017 - 9:40am

Hello Anonymous,

Welcome to EmpowHER. Thank you for reaching out to our community.

Consider visiting a rape crisis center or women's health clinic to get support following the sexual attack.This should be reported to the police.

Bleeding for six days appeared to show that you did not become pregnant.

Implantation is spotting that occurs when the fertilized egg implants in the lining of the uterus. It is pink or brown in color, lasts about two to three days and never increases to a flow.


June 26, 2017 - 9:40am
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Anonymous (reply to Maryann Gromisch RN)

I will reach out to a someone. Not too worry. I've most recently been worrying about pregnancy tho due to religious reasons.

I've been told a woman can bleed due to trauma OR even her hymen can break. I'm marking trauma out because the bleed was just like my actual period (round the time my period was due but was just lighter). I understand if my hymen was torn due to this and I was to bleed it would be during or straight after the experience? I imagine it wouldn't take a day to show and wouldn't last that long? Am I correct?

Also am I correct to assume that Sperm does not travel through clothes?
I will definitely seek help and report this but I'm trying to get rid of one problem at a time

Also I took a HPT this morning just to make sure (it's been 25 days since the first incident and around 14 days for the second .. So can I say it is accurate during this time? Was with a first response test)

June 26, 2017 - 10:59am
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