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By December 15, 2012 - 11:50am
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hi my problem is my boy friend and i have been together for 5 months and we have know each other for a year and couple months now. well we have not had sex as yet because i get scared we do get involve in foreplay but when we get too far i tell him to stop he gets frustrated at times, i remember a time when we got a little to excited and he wanted to go further and i stopped him he told me he has to come really bad and he wanted us to to ave sex i told him no and he was a bit upset but eventually he apologized to me. we had a discussion the other day and i asked him why is has sex with other girls but still call me his girlfriend and he said he wants to stop but in order 2 stop i know wat to do which is ave sex with him but i think if he really loved me he would wait on me. im really afraid of the pain with sex as frenz of mine tell me about their first time, i just dont know what to do any more

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Keisha lee,

I'm not going to tell you what you want to hear. If this guy is having sex with other girls he isn't going to stop. No matter what he says, he will not stop having sex with them once you let him have sex with you. You should also be very weary of guys that are having sex with other girls because whatever he catches from them will stick to you if you do decide to have sex with him. 

It's obvious that you have strong feelings for him but he isn't really a boyfriend and you will end up hurt and disappointed about losing your virginity to a guy that doesn't care enough about you to make you his one and only and to be patient enough to wait. He sounds like a tool who is just looking for a hole to put his penis into with no regard to your feelings.

You already know what to do with this guy-- there are plenty of good men out there who will truly value your worth and RESPECT the fact that you are a virgin. Don't waste your time on this guy anymore.


December 15, 2012 - 2:47pm
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