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How do I get my libido back

By April 11, 2017 - 1:38am
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I am 25, and I have been with my boyfriend for 4 and a half years. We moved in very quickly together. We were and still are very in love, but the intimacy we used to have at the beginning of the relationship is a lot less than before. About a year and half ago I had an abortion, which we both agreed on, he was very supportive for any of my decision, but was still very scared and hurt about it. I am wondering if my lack of libido is due to the emotional scar, and the fear of falling pregnant. I do not want to let go of what we have, I love him and I really wish to please him.

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Hello LyraMARS,

Welcome to the EmpowHER community. I am glad you reached to us.

It is understandable that the emotional impact of having an abortion and the fear of becoming pregnant again would negatively impact your libido.

Have you considered counseling? Working with a well trained therapist may help you cope with any emotional issues.

Joining a support group may offer some benefit.



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