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I can't reach an orgasm. Help!

By Anonymous April 12, 2017 - 5:39am
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My boyfriend and I have just recently started becoming sexual with each other. He was the first guy and only guy that I ever let touch anywhere near my vagina. I let him finger me on multiple occasions. When he does it I feel 100% pleasure. But when I try to do it, I can't orgasm how I used to. Is something wrong? I feel like I'm ready to have sex, but I'm scared.

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Hello Anonymous,

Welcome to EmpowHER. I am glad you reached out to our community with your concern.

Fear or being scared to have sex could be the reason. If you get pleasure from fingering, that is great.

I do not know why you can no longer reach an orgasm when you masturbate.

Share with your boyfriend your fears. Take it slow. In time, you should be able to enjoy sex.


April 12, 2017 - 8:12am
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