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i have been with my boyfriend 2 years and he carnt stay hard

By Anonymous July 14, 2010 - 1:31pm
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i have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and sex used to be no issue! it was gr8!

since we have got back from travelling we have been having some problems..when ever we start to have sex, he eaither cannot cum, or he goes floppy... im not sure why???

i feel its because he is not sexualy attracted to me, and we keep arguing about it.. and recently broke up because of it, because he sed he wasnt sexually attracted to me.. but he gets a hard on! just doesent last! is it because hes not attracted to me any more? or did he just say that because i had drained it in to him?

im really not shur! and its upsetting us both

we really do love each other! so are trying again but we want to over come this problem!

pleaseeeee help me!!!

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Its happen to me too. Since my bf came back from oversea, he hardly come and also lazy have sex with me.
I found so hurt sometime because i felt Im not attractive enough to turn him on... I cried in front of him and told him all that. But he said he didn't mean it, he loves me so much. I felf alots love from him, he care for me alots, get so well along with my family.
Sex is something connect our relationship more stronger. And i have nothing from him sometime ... I need it so bad.
Aniwai, I was searching online what is a reason cause him not interesting having sex with me... because I feel the love from him.
My boy, he might stress out about his financial, work place, increase hours of work and his last relationship might affect him too.
It might cause him think he is not attractive to me enough or he is not worth for me to love him or I can get some1 better than him.....That might reasons why he hardly to get hard.
Girl, you need to ask yourself that how much you love this guy? will you stay with him without sex? will you give out everything for him? If the answer is YES then I think you should take it slow and find out what happen to him, what is he thinking and what is in his mind. That's what Im doing at the moment.
Let him know its ok if he can not turn on while you guy having sex... Give hime sometime... He will get better once he feels your love.
And if your answer is NO then i think you just move on. don't waste your time if you need sex so much than a person who can take care you and be with you when you need
i think when your bf hardly to get hard, and you might said something or your action make him think he is not attractive to you. It might a reason why he get hard and then turn to floppy.
The good way for you is "don't take sex as important, let him know its ok if he can not do it, take it slow, show him you love him and how attractive he is to you.."
Hope all its help :) goodluck

October 3, 2011 - 6:34pm

I am confused, as you said, "he sed he wasnt sexually attracted to me".

If your boyfriend said this to you, and meant it, then he can still get an erection, and not be sexually attracted to you. A man's penis can become erect by any number of stimuli, including sexual and non-sexual. Just the act of a man taking off his underwear to get dressed, and his penis feeling the "open air" can cause an erection.

I am also confused how you say you love each other, but he is not attracted to you sexually. This would be the reason he may/may not get an erection, and may/may not stay erect, and may/may not ejaculate.

July 15, 2010 - 3:06pm
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