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My boyfriend doesnt seem as interested in having sex with me.

By Anonymous January 29, 2011 - 9:00am
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My boyfriend is 11 years older than me, and weve been together almost 2 years. In the beginning we had sex multiple times a week. Lately hes been ignoring my advances. Its not that we NEVER have sex but its only about once a week. I recently saw in our computer history that he had visited a porn site, and he laughed it off. Could this be a culprit of his lessening interest? I know that after time your sex life looses some excitment, but I never thought that he would ignore me when i was trying to initiate it. I do know that he is stressed out about work and money, and I know that plays a role, and I have also put on id say 10 pounds since we started dating, he also has gained about 10 lbs. I Just wonder what the key reason is and if there is anything I can do to help it?
So Frusterated.

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Hi Anonymous,
I think you may have answered your own question. Stress about jobs, money, etc. can certainly be a sex killer. Secondly, having sex once a week is actually a lot in a common relationship which is possibly once a month....consider yourself lucky.

If you are concerned, talk to him. The best answer you can get is from him as to why he may be a little stand-off-ish but try not to blame him for resisting sex. As you said, there are some stresses in his life and this is the number one reason why couples may no longer be intimate.

Good luck and keep us updated.

January 29, 2011 - 9:51am
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