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My boyfriend doesnt wanna have sex withme anymore...

By November 6, 2009 - 2:06am
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Okay,,,we've been together more than three years now. we've had our ups and downs. two break-ups in between. after the second break-up, which is about 8 month ago, he completely stopped having sex with me. I waited for a while and mentioned it again, and asked me to wait! of course, I waited because of what so called,the love that i have for him. About two month ago, I talked to him seriously about this matter and asked him to do something about it otherwise, I would leave him. He asked me to give him another chance! and I did!! But nothing happened! it happened again and again, he promising me and I believing and then NOTHING! He says he loves me and he is happy with me and wants to be with me, but he wants to have NO SEX!!! I feel so bad about it!! I love him and part of my emotions is sexual, of course!!! I don't know what to do! I asked him to come counseling with me and he doesn't want to! I am so desperate about the matter! I need help in this case so bad~~

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Stop pressuring him for sex all the time and just consentrate on having fun together.
The more your telling him your gonna leave, is not gonna make him feel any better or want to have sex with you, your probably putting him of it more.
Go back to doing the things together you both did at the start of the relationship and see what happens there.
If other areas of your lives are not good maybe its time to end the relationship.
If after doing couple stuff for a while (months not a few days) start to be more seductive but not so he knows what your doing, wear sexy underwear, bed clothes, a small towel after having a shower, etc... give him a massage.
Before you both start being sexual again though you both have to feel happy and relaxed in your relationship
Hope it works out for you both

November 8, 2009 - 8:42pm


Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do about a man who doesn't want to have sex with you. You can't force him and I think you know that the relationship is not working out between you. You can always try therapy but, again, the therapist can only do so much and you would first have to ask him if he is willing to try counseling.

This seems to be a very popular topic lately so I included a link to another post similar to yours.


Good luck

November 6, 2009 - 6:47am
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