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Pain during sex??

By Anonymous January 24, 2015 - 11:53pm
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So somtimes while having sex (I lost my virginity almost a year ago) I have this internal sharp pain when he goes in all the way. It hurts quite bad and once I had to tell him to stop completely. Another time I felt the pain it wasn't as bad and I was able to deal with it, the sex was still pretty pleasurable. The last time I felt pain it hurt quite a lot again so I told him. To stop but I managed to do it a few mins later with no pain. What can this be? It doesn't happen all the time, and I don't think it's bc I'm ovulating, bc the first time it hurt I was on my last day of my period and the other two times at different times during my cycle. (I have a very regular average one since I'm on the pill) but what is this internal pain I feel?

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Hello and thank you for sharing your question.

Pain during intercourse often happens when you are not fully aroused.  The vagina is not necessarily aroused by simple penetration.  It is delicate and when not handled properly it can hurt just like anything else in the body.

You do not have a medical condition.  It is a very common for women to feel pain during intercourse simply because their vagina's do not get as aroused as their clitoris.  If your partner penetrates but your clitoris is not being stimulated, then you can feel pain because you're not being properly aroused.

Men have one optimal point of pleasure which is an erection. Women are different.  Women respond to touch, and this can be different for each woman.  My point is, penetration is not an automatic source of pleasure for women as it is for men.  Therefore, you must find out what works best for you, and what you like.  Once you do this, problems of pain during intercourse go away.

I hope this makes sense.


January 25, 2015 - 11:35am
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