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By Anonymous November 11, 2019 - 7:43pm
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Hi my period had just ended about 3 or 4 days ago and i have a 30-31 day cycle bf was giving me oral and started fingering me i gave him oral and handjob everything (his semen) went on top of a old cloth hand sanitized hands then we took a nap laid down after he fingered me his penis was touching my vagina because he was naked and fingering me then he put it inside me like started having sex for like 2-3 mins then withdrew and then he got done on my pelvic area wiped everything quickly later on after much time i was giving oral he spit on penis put it inside me and sex for like 4-5 mins he withdrew early got done on my stomach/pelvic area he wiped everything when i got up we noticed some dripping down from my stomach but cleaned it quickly. so nothing got on my vagina. based on my period cycle and days is there much risk? please help me i dont want to take plan B unless i really need to hes aware of what he did and cares for me and he said to not worry also washed vagina with water twice and when he was fingering me he put two fingers i started spotting/bleeding cause it was rough ... thank you

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Hello Anon

Thank you for writing!

You really, really need to stop listening to males who tell you that you won't get pregnant and that it'll be ok and that they care for you. They say this so you won't insist on them using a condom. It's your body that will get pregnant and you will have to live with the consequences, not them. The choice is yours to make but if you continue to have unprotected you may get pregnant (what you did is not considered safe sex) at some stage. It won't be happily every after no matter what you think and what he says. Get a backbone and tell him no condom = no sex.

As to whether you will get pregnant or not - we can't say. If sperm was in your body - and it could have been if he didn't urinate between ejaculation - then it's possible, if you ovulate early. Your risk is probably quite low (we can't give percentages) but there is some risk. Washing a vagina does nothing to eliminate a pregnancy risk. If he fingers you so hard that you bleed, tell him to be more gentle.

Your next period will let you if you got pregnant or not. Try not to worry too much, your risk is low. But I would advise you to be a lot kinder to yourself in future by making sure you are always protected. If you don't look out for yourself, who will?


November 12, 2019 - 12:29pm
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Anonymous (reply to SusanC)

Hi thank you as if today its been 12 days i feel totally normal like I always do on Monday planning to take preg test so it would be 14 days since that activity would a pregnancy test be accurate by then this would be 7 days before expected period date and 14 days after sexual activity which happened on november 11 so planning to take test on november 25 would it be accurate by now..?

November 24, 2019 - 12:27am
HERWriter Guide (reply to Anonymous)

Hello Anon

Yes, a pregnancy test should be accurate by now.

November 25, 2019 - 2:59pm
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