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Pregnancy scare?

By June 11, 2016 - 10:41am
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Hi, I'm 17 years old and I'm very scared about my situation, being a virgin and all. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we have finally decided to have sex. We both feel physically emotionally and mentally ready. We've been trying all of this week, really.. But it hasn't worked. The condom made him loose his erection, he could stay hard long enough, couldn't fit, etc. yesterday, we got carried away and without a condom, he was rubbing his penis all on my vulva and I was really wet. He wasn't fully hard, and he didn't ejaculate but pre-ejaculate is what I'm concerned about. I then gave him oral, he came, and we took a shower together and we were just kissing and his penis occasionally came into contact with my genital area. We got out, and without a condom he tried to penetrate me but I kept pulling back because every time he would try it would hurt. So, long story short we did not have intercourse, but we did attempt to. Anyways, I feel that I'm pregnant due to these trials and tribulations. Last Wednesday was the first time we tried to have sex, so it has been longer than a week since risky behavior. I am on birth control, and have been for a full pack and am now on a new one, but I always have issues with if I've successfully swallowed the pill because once again, I'm very paranoid. I've been having ..

1. Back pain
2. Frequent urination
I know this is a lot to take in, but I've started to resent my boyfriend (for no good reason) and I'm scared to even have sex now because hey, I'm probably already pregnant . :( I'm so upset.. Could I be pregnant with no penetration or ejaculation?

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Hello and welcome to EmpowHer,
You cannot be pregnant for several reasons. First of all, birth control pills stop ovulation, thus there is no egg for the sperm to fertilize. Secondly, you did not have intercourse. Third, he did not ejaculate in your vagina during penetration. So, not only was there no egg, there was no sperm either. Lastly, there was no penetration.
You do not need to worry about whether or not you successfully swallowed the pill. If you put it into your mouth, odds are you body absorbed the hormones.
If you miss your next period, take a pregnancy test. But for now, simply keep taking the pills as usual. If penetration is still an issue in the future, you can use a water-based, hypoallergenic lubricant which you can buy at any drug store. This will help ease the penetration.
Below I have pasted a link to a HER article that talks more about outercourse and pregnancy.

June 11, 2016 - 6:06pm
(reply to fchacon)

Please please please .. If my period doesn't come, why would I have to test if pregnancy is impossible? I'm freaking out

June 12, 2016 - 5:53am
(reply to fchacon)

Hank you very much . I know you're busy and all but I have one more question, if pregnancy isn't possible, why would I take a pregnancy test in the event of a missed period?

June 11, 2016 - 6:25pm
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