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Is this a serious pregnancy risk?

By Anonymous February 3, 2015 - 8:24pm
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So here's the story: my boyfriend and I were laying down & I could feel his penis "poking" against my bum/vagina area. So I pushed myself closer to him and he pulled down my sweatpants but kept on my underwear. So we continued to do the "motions of sex" for about a good 5-10 minutes. He stopped himself bc he did not want to create a mess w/ his semen. But he did have his underwear & jeans on. And like I said, I had my underwear on.
Later, idk how much long after, I flipped myself over and gave him a handjob but we stopped because my sister came upstairs and I wiped my hands off quickly on my sheets and ran to the bathroom but I didn't wash my hands (I know, gross). But then later after he left (idk how much longer) I forgot and touched my vagina & clitoris. ): I'm so scared that I can be pregnant. I don't know if I was ovulating. I know there was pre cm present both times. And ever since last Sunday or Monday, I have been having light cramps. My discharge has been changing from day to day. So far I have had: stretchy & clear, "pastey like" & white.

Idk what to do or what to believe. Please help.
No joke I've been having light cramps for a week now. On and off. I can't tell if it's my bladder or my uterus.

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Alright wow thank you that helped me think about it differently. Thank you so much!

February 4, 2015 - 10:52am

Hello Anonymous,

Sperm can live outside the body for about 20 minutes. As a good rule of thumb, once the semen has dried, the sperm has died.

So, by the time you touched yourself, any semen would have dried, thus no live sperm and no risk for pregnancy.

When is your period due to start? If soon, then that would explain the changes in vaginal discharge and light cramping.


February 4, 2015 - 9:06am
(reply to Maryann Gromisch RN)

What about the dry humping situation? Sperm can absolutely not travel through clothes right?
And I should be starting next Wednesday. Sometimes I'm a day early, sometimes a day late. But I mean the cramps have never been like this before. At one time, like last Monday (not this past Monday) I had a shocking pain in my vagina area. Is there absolutely no risk from what I described?

February 4, 2015 - 10:02am
Guide (reply to coskayla)

Hi coskayla,

You are correct. There is no risk for pregnancy with dry humping because sperm cannot travel through clothes.

If you are concerned about the shocking pain that you experienced recently, consider scheduling an appointment with a gynecologist.If you are not seeing one, now is a good time to start.


February 4, 2015 - 10:33am
(reply to Maryann Gromisch RN)

Just one more question- say only one of the parties were wearing underwear. Would that higher the risk of pregnancy? Or no because there are clothes and sperm can just not even swim through one layer of clothes? I do understand there also needs to be semen present. But does the underwear, or other piece of clothing, soak up the sperm?

February 4, 2015 - 10:44am
Guide (reply to coskayla)

Hi coskayla,

Take a minute and think about it. As long as one of you were wearing underwear, if he had on boxers no sperm could get through, and if he was naked but you were wearing underwear, no sperm could get through.

Think of the clothing as a barrier.


February 4, 2015 - 10:50am
(reply to Maryann Gromisch RN)

Is it normal to have (possibly PMS) cramps for over a week?
It started about 1-2 days after my boyfriend and I fooled around. So I don't know if it's because of infection. I know you can't tell me but i just want to know if it's "normal" for a girl who normally doesn't get cramps until 1-3 days before her period to get them almost 2 weeks before. And it's still continuing.

February 4, 2015 - 2:47pm
Guide (reply to coskayla)

Hi coskayla,

What you must consider is that this change in premenstrual cramping is different from what you normally experience. Every woman is different.

Some women may have premenstrual symptoms, like cramping that starts at ovulation and continues until the onset of their periods.

If the cramping persists and becomes painful, consult your physician.


February 5, 2015 - 9:57am
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