My boyfriend and I (I am 20 and he is 26) have been having sex for 5 months now. I was a virgin, while he has had only one other serious sexual relationship. I've been masturbating since puberty, but I'm only able to orgasm with a vibrator or the bathtub tap.
When he first started giving me oral, I was able to orgasm. Though, the last couple of times it was taking me a very long time to cum (over 30 minutes) and he was getting frustrated. I tried to explain to him that he had to keep up constant stimulation when I was getting close, but because he was getting tired he would stop for a moment and orgasm would fade away. Because of his frustration with me, I would get turned off--then there was no hope for me and I wouldn't enjoy it anymore. When I ask him now if he'd go down on me he always says that I take too long and will change the subject. I've tried enticing him by suggesting 69, or by telling him how much I want and love when he goes down on me.
My boyfriend also dislikes foreplay, or rather would like just to have sex right away rather than warming me up. I haven't been able to orgasm during sex yet, though have come close. I was very shy and tentative when we first started having sex but lately I've been very enthusiastic and am trying many things that will please him, but he doesn't share the enthusiasm in pleasing me. My biggest problem is that I'm also getting frustrated in my ability to orgasm, so I've been faking it. I'm afraid to tell him this since I know it will hurt his ego.
How do I convince him that my pleasure is important too? How can I get him to start giving me oral again? And how do I focus on my own pleasure during sex rather than focusing all my energy on his pleasure?
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