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we need help for first time sex ?

By Anonymous April 30, 2016 - 5:01am
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i have few questions and i want to know before me and my women we went to bed :D

me and my girl we both are virgin and enough old ( myself 26 and she's 25 ) i'm moving to her country this may and we will live together. we have slept before but we didn't had sex but we slept naked n played with body !

1 : she's virgin and me too and our question is , do we really need a Lubricant ?

2 : when we are inserting penis into verniga do we have to put penis slow slow or we have to put it whole inside and take it out and do again same !

3 : once if she bleed ( i read some girls don't ) so if she bleed so she have to get up and pee and clean herself , after that we can carry on to sex or we should stop ?

4 : once we done can we have sex same night after 20 to 30 min or we have to wait next few days ?

5 : we will use condom but we are really scared so is this fine if she takes pills ? ( we can get pills from any drugstore on asking we need pregnancy control pill ( we are in china ) ?

please reply our questions and we do really appreciate that thank you

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Hello and welcome to EmpowHer,

1. When the female is sexually aroused, her vagina creates a natural lubricant. The need for extra lubrication entirely depends on how much natural lubrication she produces on her own. For the first time, you may want to have lubricate on hand in case you need it.

2. There is no right or wrong why to penetrate during sex. It depends on what feels good to both of you. Usually it is a good idea to penetrate slowly the first time, so your girl-friend can adjust to the feeling. Ask her how she is feeling and what she wants from you.

3. If your girlfriend does experience bleeding, she will most likely want to clean up right away. Whether she wants to continue having sex after that or not is up to her. Using extra lubrication can decrease the chances of bleeding the first time a girl has intercourse.

4. You can have intercourse as many times as you wish. There are no rules to how many times you can have sex in one day. Just keep communicating with your girl-friend about how she's feeling and what she wants.

5. I'm not sure how you can get birth control pills in China. In the US you need a doctors prescription, but in China it may be different. If your girlfriend does start taking birth control pills, she needs to take them for a week before they will prevent pregnancy.

Let us know if you have any more questions.

April 30, 2016 - 11:31am
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