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Actually, I caught him my first time, and he lied about everything. he confessed, said sorry, but, i hear him all the time, espcially in the mornings. He moans, but he denies it. When he could be taking his horny self out on me. I love sex, and i crave it, so i dont see why he is wanting to jerk off, when he has me.
Hes absolutly Lazy! Usually after work, he comes home, and we eat dinner, then usually watch a movie. usually we rent them, but he always falls asleep, we use to sit together on the couch, but he lays down in the other one and just passes out.
If we do have sex, its graved in my mind that, i, have to be on top. If hes horny, and we mess around (which is rare) ill try getting him on top, but of course hes strong and gets me on top, then im stuck there, he dont want to do new sex moves, nothing. Just that one move the entire time. I ask him to switch it up, and he says, next time, but he says next time every time i ask. so then again, im stuck on top. Hes just too lazy to do anything, I dont have a clue waht too do...
Alot of people would say join him. but its kinda hard, when he locks himself in the bathroom, and denies it, so he pretty much kicks me to the side, as though im nothing. What should i Do???
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Andy, btw thanks for saying you think I'm an attractive lady, that really helps me.
April 28, 2016 - 1:43pmThis Comment
Thanks Andy. I guess it's just that when he has it all, like a wife who will do whatever it takes to please her husband, he still wants more. It might be hard for him to find another one like me, but in porn you can watch other women doing it all and that's why I feel I'm not enough for him or he doesn't find me attractive enough. That certaintly doesn't help my low self esteem and it diminishes my feeling of self worth. It makes me feel like S-@#t about myself
April 28, 2016 - 1:35pmThis Comment
As a guy you just get tired of hagen daas vanilla all the time. When it fails to work properly its worrisome. Am i getting old? Is it E.D.? I'm too young to be mpotent. So we move on, in our minds, to see if and what makes us feel virile again. You try strawberry, chocolate, basken robbins, even a drumstick from back in the day. His favorite is prob still hagen daas vanilla but our brain seeks variety to function.
March 20, 2016 - 11:53amThis Comment
Our sex life has always been great. In the past 7 years or so he has been too tired to have sex with m a lot because his job is very stressful and tiring. But I am always ready willing and able all the time. I feel frustrated because it seems I'm always in the mood and he's just not! The thought of him jerking off instead when I want it and I've been waiting for it upsets me. I'm a very sexual woman and sex is an important aspect in a relationship so I feel it should be a healthy part of an successful relationship. At this point it's mainly the fact that my husband lied to me... And for 30 years that's upsetting me the most!
March 21, 2016 - 8:12amThis Comment
I've been with my husband for 12 years I've been by his side since we were 15 years I was so madly in love with him when I was 17 I got pregnant we were scared but tried to make the best of it. We excepted the fact we were gonna be parents it never really crossed our minds if we were gonna be together forever. I went into premature labor 5 months pregnant doctors didn't want to do anything further for me or my baby and had to let him go. Life was hard for us it put a small wedge between us but not a huge deal breaker. We got through it. Life was getting better. When we were 21 we got married i was so happy I felt like I was on cloud 9 just so beautiful. A couple months go by and I find out I'm pregnant I'm scared he's scared. My doctor recommends me to not have sexual contact with my husband until the baby was born. To prevent myself from going into early labor. Which I knew it was something I had to do. It was so hard at some times. I would walk in and find my husband master bating and developing a porn addiction. It would hurt my feelings because I was hormonal and wanted to be desired by my husband. I knew it wouldn't be long before I would be holding my baby and life would get back to normal for me and my husband. It hasn't he still likes to look at porn and master bate by himself. Never wants any sort of physical contact with me. Sometimes he wants to talk to me and how everything is my fault and my feelings don't matter. He likes to take our 5 year daughter on dates just him and her he doesn't want to include me. She notices this behavior between me and her dad. She likes to be with me more. I miss her so much i always have to work and he gets to be home with her most of the time. Because he works 3 days a week 12 hr shifts. We go months without any sex. It affects me because I am a very attractive women. I just wish the man I married would own up to it and try to make me happy. I feel like giving up! So I understand how you feel.
September 7, 2015 - 4:37pmThis Comment
Good afternoon everyone all I say is I'm an emotional wreck after catching my husband masturbate last night right next to me. I'm a mess just because I feel disrespected yes it's that time of month but we were sexual active a few days ago right before. I feel so down disrespected nasty and just don't know how else to feel. I talked to him about it but it's so uncomfortable I don't understand
February 22, 2016 - 9:27amThis Comment
I feel the same way. I woke up this morning to him masturbating and watching porn...in bed right next to me. It hurt my feelings so much because I was less than three feet away and he could have just woken me up for a little morning fun. But he chose not to. And we didn't do anything last night either, he just watched porn and went to bed. Being a thicker woman, I am scared that he has lost interest in me and prefers the sleek, sexy women on porn over me.
March 29, 2016 - 11:11amThis Comment
What was his reasoning when u confronted him? Why did he say he did it? If he went into the bathroom or another room to masturbate you wouldn't have known. Would it have bothered you if he did it and you didn't know about it? Here do you stand on the whole issue? Do you masturbate too? If so do you do it alone or together with your husband? Mutual masturbation can be fun. :)
February 22, 2016 - 7:29pmThis Comment
My wife and I recently had to attend a wedding, for which she wanted to lose some weight. I encouraged her to exercise, I oiled and wrapped her nightly, and massaged her daily. During this period we had some great sex. After the wedding, she put the weight back on and sex returned to normal (not bad, but not great). My sad conclusion is that all my effort was not worth the outcome. Why should I have to work so hard for great sex, when I can find great stimulation on the internet and achieve orgasm without concern for how my partner feels? I think that internet porn has made fantasy sex so readily available and easy that many men prefer it to conventional sex with their partner, especially if they have to work so hard to stimulate a great response from their partner.
September 5, 2015 - 3:25amThis Comment
Hey anonymous, I have read your predicament that you are in, but if it's any reassurance u are not alone for sure. I for one know how you feel with regards to the masturbation. I honestly believe it stems from an issue that has affected us from the past. I am currently going through Conselling for this. It's only something I've just started and I am on my third session. I am able to say it's very difficult to open up about your thoughts and feelings to a complete stranger, but I do believe if you don't get to the root of the problem, whether you're with your husband or another man, this way of thinking and feeling will continue throughout any relationship. I for one thought it was something I was going to have to deal with for the rest of my life knowing that I couldn't trust anyone once my back was turned. I'm new to this site and not sure how it works, but if there is a way of you being able to contact me one to one, I'd be happy to chat with you about it. I haven't fully written about my experience on here, but I would be happy to share with yourself. Also, I am aware that in one of your post you mentioned that you were now having therapy. I hope it's helping and I'd be happy to hear how it's going. I wish you all the best, but remember u r not alone.
August 6, 2015 - 3:42amThis Comment