me and my boyfriend used to stay up late every night untill like 4 in the morning watching dvd's when we would watch the last dvd that would be when we had sex. we used to have sex everynight around that time. but recently he has totally lost interest in sex. i worry that its something to do with me, wether hes not attracted to me, or if im not doing something right. im quite a shy person, so i tend not to ask him about it. but on the odd occasion when i do ask him, he says its because hes tired from work and gets moody with me. we argue a lot more recently too, could this be because we dont have sex? my best friend and i spoke about the sex 'issue' and she said sex is very important in a relationship, and i agree. i dont feel wanted anymore, i need help!!! and fast. x
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Anon,
It could be a lot of things. You didn't mention how long you two have been together, but sometimes interest does wane when a couple has been together for quite a while. And your friend is right -- it IS important to a relationship.
But unfortunately, only you and he know what's going on in your minds. Even though it's tough, you're going to have to talk it out and figure out where to go from here. It's possible that what he says is true -- that he's tired from work. He may feel that you are too needy, and he's pulling away from that feeling. Yes, he may have met someone else, or there might be an internet porn issue. These are some of the things we've seen from others with questions like yours.
Can I ask about your life? How old are each of you? Do you two live together, and if so, for how long? Do you work? Do you keep up with your girlfriends? Do you exercise, or do other things out on your own? In other words, do you have a life outside of this cocoon that you and your boyfriend have built?
June 16, 2010 - 8:50amThis Comment
I dont know really. But I gotta tell you that it seems like he has met someone else...
June 14, 2010 - 3:38pmMaybe the guilt he is feeling is what is making him moody. Its easier to fight about the little stuff than tackling the real problems
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