We had many many arguments about this for 4 months now, and i keep catching him every single time..just this pat week we had a 4 hour discussion and he promised me he would never do it again..well just the other night omg more pics and porn not just pics im talking full flede nudity sexually revealing clothing etc. We had argument after argument..i feel like i don't care no more bc when i seen the pics a few fays ago i just dident even cry or anything i feel numb...we even went to were he said a few months bk start dressing slutty take pics and vids so i did what he asked.and still the same bull **** ..I still love him with all my bein i just dont know whAt to do...and heres the kicker he going to be 52 in a few weeks im 38...i thought any person would grow up...i know i did long time ago i feel its disrecpectful ..cant even watch t.v. with out some sort of comment or suggestion.or even go out ,with out him having eyes and making comments or sugestion it hurts me to the core..
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Hello Anon
Thank you for writing and I'm sorry you're dealing with this.
This may not be an issue of growing up - your husband may have a genuine compulsion/obsession with porn. Like any addiction, it's extremely hard to quit alone.
At the same time, he's checking out probably big plastic breasts and wigs and "porn-star makeup" and you're doing the same for him, by making the same videos. Stop competing against these women; it's beneath you and you shouldn't have to. Even if you don't think you're competing, you are. Until he gets some help, you'll never be enough- these others will always be a part of his harem.
Addicts, by their very nature, are completely selfish. You can ask him to stop or get help but you can't force him. He has a decision to make - get help or not. And you have decisions to make too - stay and work through this, stay and accept the way things are, or leave.
September 8, 2017 - 3:02pmI wish you the best.
Susan
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