In this edition of EmpowHER's "HER Daily Dose", Bailey Mosier examines a study which asks the question of whether or not we will ever understand the dynamics and differences between men and women in relationships.
Hi, I’m Bailey Mosier. This is your EmpowHER HER Daily Dose.
Will we ever understand the dynamics and differences between men and women in relationships? Probably not … so add this to the list of differences: Men like to know when their wife or girlfriend is happy while women really want the man in their life to know when they are upset. Makes sense, right?
Harvard Medical School researchers studied 150 heterosexual couples in committed but not necessarily married relationships whose average time together was three-and-a-half years. They hypothesize that for women, seeing that their male partner is upset reflects some degree of the man's investment and emotional engagement in the relationship, even during difficult times, which is consistent with what is known about the dissatisfaction women often experience when their male partner becomes emotionally withdrawn and disengaged in response to conflict.
Men want their women to be happy and women are happiest when they know their men are upset. That may not make the most sense but this research should encourage couples to better appreciate and communicate one another's efforts to be empathetic.
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Wow... is it bad that I can really relate to this? I completely agree that seeing my boyfriend upset at times, does make me feel better because to me, it shows that he really cares and is invested in the relationship. But what the study didn't say is if this is ok to feel that way. It sounds so unhealthy to me, even though I can't help but feel the way I do. So that is something I was wondering.
I'm not so sure about the last sentence either. The sentence on it's own makes sense to me, but I really don't understand how it ties in with the rest of the article. I feel silly for saying that since it's probably obvious what it means. Maybe someone could better explain it to me.. ? I just think this is such an incredible study that was done and I really want to make sure I fully understand it.May 7, 2012 - 12:34am