Even after creating guidelines and boundaries, people still make mistakes, because we’re all only human after all. Be reasonable with your boundaries and do your best to respect each other.
6) Be prepared to put time and effort into your relationship. In fact, De Ridder believes that marriage or relationships, in general, do require work — they won’t come naturally all the time. This is especially true when you have multiple responsibilities, such as your career, family and children.
7) Schedule date nights regularly. Don’t assume that the same passion and intimacy will always exist in a relationship without any effort, she said. Make sure you actually go through with date nights consistently, as well.
8) Try couples therapy. You don’t have to have issues to benefit from therapy, De Ridder stated. In fact, going to therapy can help prevent seemingly minor issues from growing into deal breakers.
Preventing any major relationship problems from brewing can help both partners avoid infidelity. Some major issues that could contribute to infidelity, if left untouched, include resentment, loneliness, and the lack of intimacy and support.
9) Evaluate your personal relationships outside of marriage or your long-term committed relationship. It’s natural to seek attention from other human beings, but just make sure the attention you need outside of your romantic relationship is appropriate, De Ridder said.
Sometimes your intentions may be right, but in a moment of weakness, you could follow through with interactions outside of your relationship that end up potentially ruining your trust with your partner.
10) Facilitate intimacy within your relationship. Besides going on regular dates, find a hobby or activity that you can both find enjoyment from together, said Jessica Heimark, a marriage and family therapist, and director of clinical services at Pathways Therapeutic Services Inc.
Seek emotional support from your partner instead of someone who may not have clear intentions. Don’t sign up for any dating websites.