Relationship advocate Sonya Zepeda provides advice for those who are looking for love on the Internet.
It seems like every person I know is trying Internet dating these days, even right down to, I have a boxing coach who doesn’t even have a computer and he just got online to try out e-harmony I believe it was, but there are three things that I think are important to know in regards to Internet dating.
Number one, if you’re a hopeless romantic I don’t know that it’s the thing for you. Biggest reason being is you have sort of taken the romance out of everything. You’re not going to have that crush, those butterflies in your stomach, that anticipation of, what is he feeling about you? “Does he feel the same way I feel about him?” Those little flirtations.
Two, if you don’t want your relationship to be like a resume where it’s a checklist of things. Do you want kids? Yes. Do I get married? Yes. What do you do for a job… it’s very complacent and you sort of lose all the oddities that make you fall in love with a person, all the quarks, all the different little things that you notice in them that make you fall in love because instead you’re going on a series of 15-minute coffee dates and having a basic exchange, resume exchange, a job interview in essence, and I don’t really know that I think that’s a great way for romance to start.
You know, romance is about remembering those first dates and how you met and the crazy story about how you were off in Europe and you saw them walking across the street and such and such happens. So you sort of lose the spontaneity of it all.
And the third one is I think you want to make sure that you are not dating a psychopath. I mean there’s a lot of very strange, crazy people on the Internet. You hear about it all the time on the news and the media of the con artist that took advantage of her that took all of her money or things of that nature where they weren’t aware of their background and I think that’s sort of a scary thing to put yourself out there and not know a man’s background or anything about them where they can sort of create their own reality rather than actually have a reality behind them.
So those would be my three biggest things. I’m not completely against Internet dating. For me, I would advise against it and do it the old-fashioned way and just get out there. I also think it’s kind of the cheating way. You’re just too lazy to get out there and shy to pursue things.
About Sonya Zepeda:
She has played both the heartbreaker and the broken-hearted in this crazy world of love. Sonya has explored many methods for successfully recovering from the collapse of a relationship. She has put her heart and soul into finding out what does and doesn’t work in this process. Through family, friends and her own trials and tribulations with men, she has written an entertaining and educational break up guide that will help mend your heart, fill your belly and lift your spirits.