Relationship expert Jason Fierstein discusses why many men are reluctant to engage in couple's couseling sessions.
So ladies, I want to share with you some of the reasons that men are so hesitant to come into counseling. I talk with a lot of women who feel like they have to drag their guy into counseling and this doesn’t work and I want to share with you some tips about how to help get your guy into couples or marriage counseling.
So the first thing is I think it’s important for women to understand that men by nature don’t want to seek help out, okay? Before the days of GPS systems we don’t want to pullover and ask for directions, you know, we want to be the navigators, whether that’s on the road or in our own relationship or marriage and so admitting that there’s a problem, admitting that ‘hey I need help’, is a huge thing for a lot of guys and it makes a lot of guys just not want to come in.
And another tip that I want to share with you ladies about why it’s so difficult to get your guy into couples counseling is that men again, have a hard time connecting with their own selves, connecting with their emotions and so there is a big threat of coming in to see a therapist and having to do all of that emoting. Guys are not trained in this. A lot of guys lack the skills that they need to be able to do what they think is expected in couple’s counseling or marriage counseling and so this threat prevents them from coming in.
About Jason Fierstein, M.A., L.P.C.:
I am a State of Arizona board-licensed professional counselor practicing in Phoenix. My master’s degree is in psychology, with a counseling emphasis, and I have a post-graduate certification in Gestalt Therapy. I have been counseling a variety of different clients for nine years, and have been practicing privately for five.