What Does It Mean If You Don't Kiss During Sex? - Dr. Klein (VIDEO)

Therapist and Marriage Counselor Dr. Marty Klein explains what it means when sexual partners do not kiss during intercourse.

Dr. Marty Klein:

I think that kissing is a wonderful window into people’s sexual relationships. The people say that well of course, intercourse is the most intimate kind of sex or genital sex is most intimate kind of sex. I tell you after speaking with thousands of patients I think the most intimate part of sex is kissing because after all people have intercourse with somebody that they are angry with some time, some people have intercourse with somebody that they do not like so much for various reasons. Can you imagine kissing someone you do not like? Oh, disgusting. Kissing somebody that you are angry with, oh awful. So, there is something about kissing that is really, really intimate and I think what it is that kissing takes place up here where we think we live as opposed to intercourse taking place down there which we can have some sort of psychological distance from. So, when I want to know what is going on with people sexually, I ask them very, very quickly, very soon. So, do you like to kiss? Do you like to kiss each other? Do you like to kiss your partner? Do you kiss during sex? Kissing, when you are really involved with kissing somebody gets people very, very excited.

A lot of people have intercourse or other general activities before they are really, really excited.That is one of the reasons that intercourse can be so boring because people are not excited and people think, “Well, I am not excited by the way that my partner touches me or looks at me or talks to me or kisses me, but we will have intercourse and I will get excited from that.” I do not think so. Intercourse is something that you should be doing after you get excited, not in order to get excited.So, I think kissing is one of those intimate activities where people actually volunteer, they actually choose to throw themselves into a sensual and erotic engagement with somebody else and when people are hesitant to do that that is a real red flag for me and I think if any woman sort of looks over her own experience and she thinks about relationships in which I was enjoying the kissing and relationship in which I sort of was not enjoying the kissing. I think any woman would find that the kissing is really an expression of the whole erotic relationship.

BIO:

Dr. Marty Klein has been a marriage counselor, sex therapist & author for 28 years. He focuses on helping people understand and accept their sexuality, calling attention to the family, religious, cultural, and political issues that keep so many of us feeling guilty, confused, scared, and hopeless about our sexual feelings and relationships.

Dr. Klein is also the host of a sexual health show called Ask Me Anything, which airs on the EmpowHer Network. Dr. Klein is the author of five books, including Ask Me Anything: Dr. Klein Answers the Sex Questions You'd Love to Ask. His website is www.SexEd.org.

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• Reproductive System
• Sexual Health
• Sex & Relationships