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How do I stop a faker who is using medical conditions to neglect her kids and wreak havoc in our lives?

By April 25, 2015 - 3:18pm
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My son left this woman because of child neglect last year, but she has convinced him once again that her cancers are real and she can't make it without him. He had a baby with her in 2013 and although I love her dearly, I believed it only made matters worse because now her safety is an issue, too. They're living with me and they fight all the time over her lies, behavior and housekeeping skills(or the lack thereof). At the mention of her taking any responsibility, she has to go to the emergency room for some sudden onslaught of illness. She is a bone of contention between my son and I over my failure to believe she has the numerous afflictions she claims she has. Any advice would be welcome and I should mention they will be gone to a place of their own in the next few months. However, I'm worried sick that my 2 year old granddaughter, without me there every day, will not fare well at the hands of her mother.

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Hello and thank you for sharing your question.  I'm so sorry to hear about this situation and I'd like to give you some helpful advice.

The number one concern, that I see, is the safety and wellbeing of your grandchild.  This concern will of course increase greatly when they are not living with you any longer.  So, I want you to be aware that anyone can report child abuse or neglect to Child Welfare.

Your son may love his girlfriend but perhaps she is not equipped to me a mother and therefore should not be your grandson's main caretaker. Child Welfare would help place your grandson in the home of whoever would take care of him to best (probably you or your son.)  

Your son may resist the idea, however when the safety of a child is at risk, sometimes it is best to get the experts involved.  So I suggest that you discuss it with your family in order to find best situation for your grandson.


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