First, thank you for reading my post.
I've been living with my bf for 1.5 year.We love each other and planning to make a family in the near future. I must say, we have a very active sexual life.
But recently it goes off limits for me. He asks me for more stuff, which makes me feel uncomfortable and insecure. We talked it over, but he thinks I' m just too young and inexperienced in sex( he's 30, I'm 24). So, even now he asks me for more, he goes beyond what I can accept.
First,my bf asked me to excite him by dirty talk, which I consider normal, we both enjoyed it so much, but now the dirty talk borders on obscene, he wants to bring it to life. Like having sex in the balcony at night, where we can be still watched. The other day he asked me to play with a dildo in the balcony in the noon where I can be seen by hundreds of neighbors ( we live in a big compound, where dozens of building face our balcony)! I could not accept it and he was so pissed off that he left home. Moreover, he asked me to go to the sex shop and excite the salesman,then call him and let him listen to my talk with him. I told him I cant accept it, he just said he'll never share with me his dirties fantazies and desires. He thinks, I behave like a little inexperienced girl in sexlife.
There are more things that we do in bed, which I consider ok in sex: like role play and sex toys.
I know there are some couples who go to swingers, have 3somes and its ok with them. I have totally point of you, I will never bear it in my life!
Please, let me know what I shall do? Any ideas? Maybe, it`s my fault and I'm just making it? I really don't know what to do. Do these things make the relationship healthy?
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