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Menopause is sucking the life out of me

By December 28, 2010 - 11:09am
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Ok - so after months of joining this site I am finally going to ask a question instead of trying to find it on my own. I am 33 yrs old and when I was 29 I had ovarian cancer. Now I know I should feel happy that I did survive it and I am but that cancer put me into menopause and that is sucking the life out of me. I had a total hysterectomy everything gone. I haven't slept in 4 yrs, my hair is falling out and of course my sex life doesn't exist anymore. It's hard for me to express my feelings to my family and friends because my menopause was not naturally and people just don't understand what menopause actually does to you. I know that some people don't have any problems with it but I feel like my 30's and 40's are gone and all of a sudden I am in my 50's dealing with menopause. Do you believe that I had it before my mom - she is going through it now. To me that is just sad.

I am doing everything that people told me to do - I have tried black conosh and it did nothing-I exercise, eat healthy and totally gave up caffeine (which really did reduce my hot flashes) - but it's not the same, I am not the same. I don't feel like me and I really miss me, so my question is more of a request. I have decided to try bioidenticals hormone therapy and I did find a doctor (6 hours away from me) but I am still kind of worried. My family doctor said no - due to the fact that it may bring out any mass or tumors, but she give me the feeling that she only cares about the drug companies more than what is good for me. There is a story to that but I won't get into that. She did recommend taken HRT made from pregrant horse urine - no thank you. I have met and read of people who regret taking them. So I would like to know woman who are currently taking it or have taken BHRT. I want to make my appointment for after winter so in May. Any advice would be great. I did read Suzanne Summers books, and I have been in TS Wiley website. Any advice or stories would help. I hope this make sense - thank you.

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I am 52, I hate this time of my life, it is worse than being 13, I hate the way I smell, I cant wash the old lady smell off me, I look in the mirror and I cant believe how ugly and invisible I have become. My children are embarrassed to be seen with me they are teens and say I am old fat and ugly. What a trap, you are cute and attractive, have kids, they are cute, they become older and think you are ugly. We are all entrapped by our hormones. We get the strong urges to have babies in our late twenties and if we dont have them in our thirties we freak out, then, we are like a dead plant in our fifties in the 75% clearance section ready to be thrown out. Im gross

October 26, 2011 - 6:11pm
EmpowHER Guest

That really good you feel well. All women should know that there is no need to suffer. Replacing your hormones will make you whole again.

May 19, 2011 - 6:54pm

Good job. Please help spread the word. So many menopausal women are unaware of the benefits and safety of bioidentical hormones.

Dr. Shira Miller

May 13, 2011 - 11:22am
(reply to shiramillermd)

I am on them and I feel wonderful. After 6 days I started to notice a different - I sleep better no hot flashes, my mood is much better I feel so much better. Thank you for your support.

May 9, 2011 - 9:48am

thank you for your comment - I am waiting to hear from a Doctor in Windsor, ON to make an appointment. I have alot of confidence in BHRT and can't wait go and see him. It's a 6 hours drive but totally worth it. Thank you and I can't wait to check out your website.

February 8, 2011 - 7:35am
(reply to menopauseat29)

Just want to let you all know that I do have an appointment in April with a doctor, so I will let you all know how it goes. Thanks for the support, this is an awesome website.

February 9, 2011 - 9:25am
(reply to menopauseat29)

Great! I am happy to hear that you were able to get an appointment, and we look forward to hearing updates from you!

February 10, 2011 - 10:01am

Hello Menopauseat29,
It pains me to hear your story. I use cyclical, rhythmic, bioidentical hormones in my peri-menopausal, menopausal, and post-menopausal patients every day, and I'm sorry you haven't found a supportive doctor. You definitely need to find a bioidentical hormones doctor who is an expert in the Wiley Protocol. Please let me know if there are any questions I can answer for you.
Shira Miller, M.D.

February 7, 2011 - 10:24pm

Have you read this site from the American Cancer Society (ACS) regarding hormone replacement therapy and cancer risk:

December 28, 2010 - 1:18pm
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