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my boyfriend is 15 years older than me

By August 13, 2010 - 10:58am
 
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hes a really good christian guy and hes the sweetes thing. but im 19 and he is 34. my best friend is not suporting me at all. my parents love him and think hes great but most of my 7 siblings dont like the idea. how do i get them to see him as i see him? sure there are frustrations but that comes with any relationship. the thing is we are planing on getting married (not engaged yet) some time next year and i dont know how to tell my family and friends nor do i kno how the will react

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Wow i am going through much the same thing except for my parents don't agree with it and i am 18, i really don't see what the problem is, my family was friends with him before but know all of a sudden it has been deemed innappropriate for us to have a relationship.

April 4, 2011 - 4:35pm
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My boyfriend is 15 years older then me as well. I am 25 and he is 39. I honestly don't like that we are so far apart in age. I wish I could make us closer together because I hate telling people how old he is. I get looks and comments sometimes. My Grandma told me to find someone my own age, lol. But other then me wishing he was closer to my age, I am very happy with him and have been for four years. I am learning that age is nothing. You're both human and able to love so why not love each other? I am happier then most of my friends are with their same age boyfriends. I have found a good honest loving man who loves me and would do anything for me. I trust him 100 percent and i know he would never do anything to hurt me. So forget about age...people will see after 10 years of you guys being together that age is of no importance.

September 19, 2010 - 8:11pm

Susan,
Yes i have had a lot to deal with and that is why i am talking to you.
My boyfriend and i hang out about 3 to 4 times a week and talk on the phone and text. i usually hang out with my best friend about 2 to 3 times a week. but also its hard to want to hang out when im feeling sick, but i do want to be with them.
yes im still going for allergy treatments and they a slowly helping. progress with everything is very slow.

Caitlyn

August 16, 2010 - 10:31am
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kapeleaper - The only mind that any of us can control is our own. Why is what other people think so important to you? If you are sure this is the right person for you to marry, and you are confident that you are marrying for the right reasons, then you will be able to communicate that information to others. Since you do have concerns it may help you to get some professional counseling to help sort out your feelings and clear up any self-doubts you may have. Good luck to you. Pat

August 13, 2010 - 11:10am
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thank your for your advice i care what my family and friends think because they are a big part of my life. family is everything and it jus hurts when everyone gets together and some how it turns into bash my boyfriend. i that one of the mane problems they have is that he is 5 years older than my oldest sister and she and her husband just flipped out and wont even talk to me now they act as if hes not in the room and are very rude. i feel bad for my boyfriend because he was friends with them until me got together and now they have denied him.

August 13, 2010 - 11:39am
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