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My boyfriend and I had sex. Now he doesn't want to anymore.

By Anonymous February 23, 2011 - 5:54am
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My boyfriend and I recently had sex, and he loved it. He is a Christian who previously belived in no sex until marriage. But then one day he asked me if he could try it to see what it felt like. I am fine with sex and I love him very much, so I said okay. He says he doesn't regret it, but he doesn't want to have vaginal sex again until we're married. He is fine with everything else, and even wants to try anal. I'm confused and a bit hurt, and besides that find myself wanting sex now. I've always done whatever I could to make him happy, help!

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Hi Anonymous,
Thank you for your question and Welcome to EmpowHer.

The Christian faith preaches abstinence prior to marriage and it appears that your boyfriend follows his faith for the most part but was curious about sex. Are you also Christian? Do you follow the same belief?

If you have concerns about your intimacy, you should certainly talk to him and explain what you expect out of the relationship. In your instance, you two were already following his beliefs about sex prior to marriage and I am assuming you were okay with it at that time. What has changed your mind after the sexual experience? These are the things you should share with him.

I hope this provides some questions that you could possibility talk to him about your relationship. Could you keep us updated?
Good luck,

February 23, 2011 - 6:34am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

I guess just knowing what it feels like, the closeness. And I am a Christian as well, my father is a minister. Up until this experience I had never really had the desire for sex, but I just don't understand how he can just not want it so quickly. After having sex, it has become something that my body wants. I just don't understand him.

February 23, 2011 - 7:50am
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