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my desire for sex has been heightened lately but i am not dating. how to stop the feelings?

By Anonymous April 19, 2009 - 5:42pm
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I became in love with a man for the first time in my 60 years even though I was married once. I cannot remember having had sex with my child's father( the only man in my entire life! ) The only thing is that nothing happened between us but I began to fantasize about him. He is no longer a possibility and has gone to a younger woman but I have no one. The sexual feelings are constant and I do not know what to do about them. I will never have a sex life so I want the feelings to stop. How?

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I'm curious: how old are you now? You said you were in love with a man for the first time in your 60s (although you had been married once before, and are now divorced), and this man is in another relationship. It sounds like you still have feelings for him ("sexual feelings" and "fantasizing", as you describe it), and want these feelings for HIM to stop, or you want ALL sexual feelings to stop? I'm not sure why you do think you "will will never have a sex life"? How long ago did your relationship with this man end, and are you still in your 60s?

Do you feel that your age is prohibiting a sex life, have you made religious vows, or have a medical condition? Or, (pardon my giant leap of assumption, and reading between the lines), but are you still in love with this man you can not have, your heart is broken, and your only way to deal with this heartache and continued feelings for him is that you have decided the best way to protect yourself from future hurt is: if you can't have him, you will have no one, ever, and you want to know how to stop your feelings for him, and all sexual feelings in your future?

Please let me know more about your story, and I can help provide you with some information, or emotional comfort, which ever you need more.

April 19, 2009 - 6:52pm
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Anonymous (reply to Alison Beaver)

Thank you for reading my concern. You are right about your last staments. I CANNOT have him. DO NOT want the feelings to continue. DO want ALL sexual feelings to stop. I am still in my early 60's so I am not ancient, yet, but before this man came into my life I was able to hold back sexual feelings; when I saw this man,feelings just started in me. I had never dated anyone seriously after the divorce decades earlier so why the heightened sexual feelings, now, in my life? I do not expect to meet anyone else because I never had a lot of boy friends, although, I went on dates. I want the sexual feelings to end PERIOD because I find myself fantasizing about having sex and not lovemaking with a special man. I do still love the man but I am getting over it a day at a time; the problem is the heightened sexual feelings that are nearly controlling my life.) Am I making myselof clear?(:-(

April 22, 2009 - 9:35am
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