ask: pregnant at 41

Aww...if you are happy, then you should embrace that. 41 is NOT old!!! Nowadays, 41 year olds look and seem much younger than they used to. Your happiness is all that counts! I am 40 and don't even feel READY yet for a baby...maybe I'll go for it in a year or two!
Do you have a man in your life? Will this be your first baby?
I think that the important thing at any age is to remain fit and healthy, eat well and avoid alcohol.
There are 20 year olds out there having babies who can't even take care of them properly...you will be a great mother!!!

thanx for that, im over the moon, i feel well n healthy, am going for a scan on thurs. so i hope everything will be ok . fingers crossed,

I do think age is more "attitude" than just a "number". Many women are now choosing to start families later in life than previous generations, as the goals have changed for many women: they want to first achieve higher education degrees, professional jobs, traveling...then marriage and children...and this easily puts first-time moms in the age range of mid-30s to mid-40s.

From my personal experience, most of my circle-of-mom-friends are in their 30s & 40s and are first-time moms; the one woman who is 28 feels like she is the "young one", so age is all relative! Do you have other women friends who are in their late 30s/early 40s and are first-time moms? (Do you have other children, or is this your first child?).

It would be interesting to hear your answers to the questions asked previously: how does your partner feel about a new baby, or are you planning to raise the baby alone? Who is this "everybody" that will be ashamed of you? Do you have other family & friends who will be excited and happy for you? Are YOU ashamed of you, and thinking "everybody" else will be as well? And, why that word choice...what is shameful about having a baby with two consenting adults?

I hope you change your perspective on your age; 40 is hardly considered "old", unless you are keeping company with people who are in their teens! Many women feel like they don't really know themselves until they reach their 40s...and what a great mom this woman makes! A confident woman, who has had some real-life experiences so doesn't feel like she's "missing out" (all stereotypes, but I'm just trying to share the other side: a mom having a baby at 40 compared to a 20 year old has some advantages!). Every-age mom has it's advantages and disadvantages, so please take time to enjoy the GREAT aspects of being 40 and a new mom, compared to how you were at a younger age!

i had a scan on thursday, everythings great thank god. am so delighted. i am now 8 weeks pregnant, n feeling fine,, heartbeat beating fine in de scan, am back in 4 weeks for first checkup. so hopefully all be fine den too, iv had no sickness of yet, nurse said its ok, i do hope so, anyone else no of no sickness in pregnancy?

My Mother fell pregnant when she was 45 and all was very good and well!! Now my little brother is 2 and a half and a very healthy happy little boy!!! Age is nothing to do with it!! Good luck and congratulations!!!

Hi Adrienne09,

I am so excited for you!! Age is just a number. I have so many friends who've waited to have their children in their 40's. Embrace your pregnancy and your age. Congratulations!! Please come back so we can follow your pregnancy progress. It's like the whole EmpowHer community is having a baby!!

Best in health,
Michelle

PS....How are you feeling?

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very light headed, but doc said it ok, keep drinking water makes me feel better, im on top of de world part from that ... il be due 10 of april, plz god, all goin well!!!!!!

Sounds like you're doing great other than being a bit light headed. Keep drinking water and let us know how you're progressing:) You ARE going to have a happy, healthy baby!! Only positive thoughts coming your way!!

Michelle