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By Anonymous August 26, 2010 - 12:50am
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I have been married for 7 months and have been unable to have an intercourse though we have been trying. The very idea of penetration scares me of pain & I get a mental block and don't allow my husband to penetrate. This has been hampering our relationship. Pls advise.
Also, I get delayed lubrication and it does not last for very long. At times there is no lubrication. I have been advised by the doctor to take Folvite 5 mg for 4 weeks.
Does it help in lubrication?

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Hi Anonymous,
I'm sorry for your troubles with being intimate with your new husband. I must be unsettling. What does your husband say? Is he being patient? Is he a kind and good man?
Is there a reason you can think of besides for being scared why you don't want to have intercourse with your husband? Are you attracted to him? Are you intimate in other ways? Have you ever had sex before? Do you masturbate?
If you can be comfortable with your own body, it may make things go smoother for sex also. Here are some ideas to increase intimacy:
If there is some other way we can help or if you have other questions, please let us know. Sex can be a very pleasurable experience with your husband.

August 26, 2010 - 9:37am
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Anonymous (reply to Christine Jeffries)

Hi Christine,
Yes my husband has been very patient. The only reason I can think of is the pain that I might have to undergo during intercourse. We are intimate in otherwise. I have never had sex before and I haven't even masturbated.

August 27, 2010 - 12:16am
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Are you anemic? Do you have a lot of fatigue? Folic acid is a B vitamin that helps prevent some kinds of anemia, a symptoms of which is fatigue. B vitamins are essential to nerve health as well. I'm not sure why your doctor prescribed it. Did you ask why?

Here is a blurb on folic acid: http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth/PMH0000723. Hope that helps.

As for sex, why do you think it will be painful?

August 27, 2010 - 6:37am

Hi Anon

Folvite is folic acid, which is a B vitamin and often during pregnancy your health care provider will prescribe extra because it is essential to a baby's development. It would not really have an effect on lubrication.

There are lubricants that you can buy at any store, if you feel that will help you. It sounds though like the issue is your fear. What are you afraid of? If you can sort that out, maybe you can get past it. We have a little video about sex during pregnancy that may help you: http://www.empowher.com/pregnancy/content/sex-during-pregnancy-safe-dr-carrillo

Thank you for writing, and good luck.

August 26, 2010 - 6:44am
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Anonymous (reply to Cary Cook BSN RN)

Hi Cary,
Thanks for the advise. What could be th epossible reason for the doctor to advise me Folvite at this point of time. I am not preganant since I haven't had any intercourse.

August 27, 2010 - 12:18am
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