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when i sex with my bf we do everything normally but althogh he does not enjoy it.what should i do for giving him satisfaction?

By Anonymous August 29, 2011 - 1:29pm
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i mean he may be not feel the satsfaction physically.means that the fun of sex he dont get it.

August 30, 2011 - 11:05pm
HERWriter Guide (reply to Anonymous)

Hi Anon

Sometimes the fun we get out of something is due to the fun we put into it. Maybe he needs to try a little harder!

Perhaps he (and you) need to change things up a bit. How about erotic film or stories, trying different positions or different places to have sex?

If you both keep doing the same thing, it will ultimately get a little tired so use your imaginations a little!

Do remember though, not to do anything you're uncomfortable with. A happy compromise is possible.

What has he said about changing things? Does he suggest different things to do or just say he's not satisfied?


August 31, 2011 - 11:30am

Can you provide more detailed information, as we are having a difficult time understanding what your situation is. You are using vague terms, and we are here to help...but you will need to be more detailed (I assume you are having a difficult time, since it is a "taboo" topic? If so, don't worry...we've heard it all!).

If you need a clear question to answer:
You said, "he did not feel anything" after sex. What does this mean?

A few options:
- Did he not feel anything emotionally, as in an emotional connection with you, or more intimacy?
- Did he mean this physically, as he did not have an orgasm, or did not physically feel sexually aroused in the way he wanted? Did he lose his erection too quickly, or is he having any physical issues with sex?

August 30, 2011 - 7:22pm
HERWriter Guide

Hi Anon

Thanks for your post!

When you say your boyfriend is not enjoying normal sex/is not satisfied, what do you mean?

Do you think he wants to be more adventurous or try different kinds of things? Are you ok with that, too?

How do you know he is not satisfied? What has he said to you? And are you satisfied? Does he take care of you, in terms of your satisfaction?

Sorry for all the questions but we need to know more! We hope to hear back from you!


August 29, 2011 - 4:09pm
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Anonymous (reply to Susan Cody)

hi susan
i mean to say that after sex he said that he did not feel anything. i just cant understand that what should i do for giving him feelings.and yes he takes care of me.

August 30, 2011 - 11:57am
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