Hello everyone! Another crazy question for everyone. My guy and I have been together for over 2 years. During this time it has been quite the roller coaster. I was previously married for 10 years and my ex-husband and I grew apart. Our children spend equal time with both of us. My ex, his live-in girlfriend and I are all very nice to each other. As a result, our kids are well adjusted and happy. We all work together to make their lives as stress-free as possible. Our children are 8,9, 11, and 12. They are awesome! My b-f and I have lived together for over 2 years. He has always been nice to my children, but doesn't have much to do with them. He works on his cars and motorcyles all the time and doesn't interact a whole lot with them. He doesn't go out with friends, although his friends will come over and hang out. He is somewhat of a loner. Anyway, I treat him very good, and the man wants for nothing (or so I would like to think). I'm always open to new things or ready for intimacy any time! I do not go out with my friends either- it's just kind of something we have always done- if we go out, then it's always us together. Today at our gym a friend of mine asked if she could "steal" me for Saturday nite to go out. He said that he wasn't mad and didn't care, but if it were me then I would freak out and start drama. Honestly, I could care less about going out drinking with other people. Earlier this morning at the gym when we were working out, there was a new girl working out (in phenomenal shape) and my guy and his friend kept looking at and making small talk with her. I felt so sick and angry. I thought it was really disrespectful, seeing that I was there and he barely spoke to me. I made it a point to go talk to her and introduce myself, telling her she looked amazing. I didn't forget to mention that my guy and I are fitness buffs too, and that was him that was working out earlier. When I got home that's when he started everything about the going out with my girlfriend, and that he really didn't care what I did. I asked him what his whole point was, seeing that I wasn't planning to go out anyway. He said he didn't know, that he just knew that I would be jealous if the situation were reversed, because I'm always jealous and worried. There are quite a few stunts that he has pulled to make me this way, so no big surprise there. He has done everything from send text messages to sending pics to girls he works with to forgetting our anniversary then acting like it was no big deal. I'm just so tired of being nice to him and being everything I can be while he is sucking the happiness out of me. I wonder if I am wallowing in self-pity or if I really do have a reason to question him. This morning before the gym when I brough him breakfast, he was looking at a picture of a girl on his phone that was not me! Also, I don't mention my ex and neither do the kids. They all play sports and he could care less about going to any of their games. My ex's g-f is awesome. She is super involved with all the kids and I'm really happy that my ex is with someone so wonderful. Why is my dude such a selfish pinhead? I know I should just pick up and go but I don't know where to begin or what to say without seeming like a drama queen (he would say that I'm trying to start something). Thanks for your help in advance!!
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